what do I actually want ?

[yalers]

so this is my life story, I wasn't a brilliant learner was kind of dyslexic when young dint had any friends till high school . In high School things started to change for me .. I was getting good grades , was popular and all. I had a huge obsessive crush on this girl who is so amazing . She never knew if I existed . I had my share of relationships then so i Didn't really cared , Just admired her presense we were 17 then. So high school was over and I went college else where and she went somewhere else . That time away I realized I missed her a lot than usual ... was stalking her facebook page all the time for two years.. some how I got a grip on myself and for next 2 years moved on and started working in some other country .. I saw her fb page we were 21 and she was engaged to some guy who she met and was in love , I felt rage and jealousy but I got over it and worked hard on making myself worthy and sucessful.. now i am 25 posted in caribean would be a charted accountant soon . Its been 8 years and i was fine moving on till I saw her here the other day at the market .. I didnt expected her to be here .. so I felt miserable again helpless in love .. did my research on her social profile and came to know that she is not married and her engagement broke off ... she is studying at a medical college and would be a doctor soon and is single... Now Idk i feel like going up to her meet her , talk Idk just be near her ... But she is now way out of my league.. and IDk maybe she would reject me , IDK what kind of trouble relationship she has been into .. but i feel so helpless . I think of her all day and night .. IDK i am stalking her i hate myself for doing this . how do I get myself together and what should i do . Please dont ask me to see a shrink cos i do > i am reaching out here you guys be my shrink.

[Ron H]

I think it's time to be rejected properly. Why don't you connect on facebook.

[Marisa Barry]

Try to talk go her on fb and see how your lives had changed what you guys still have in commonade and what you don't and just see how you like her now

[Jacob]

My friend. First let me say that I feel your pain. I am best friends with the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with and she has already made clear her feelings for me, i.e. FRIEND ZONE. I promise you though the biggest pain you will ever feel is not being rejected by the woman you love, it's never trying to be with her. We have all had that one that got away, and few of us ever have the opportunity to go after them. This woman I love is moving to Africa and unless I somehow make her fall in love with me and stay, I will probably never see her again. You owe it to yourself and every other man who has had to deal with this pain to try to win her heart. She may reject you, and if she does then it just means that it was not God's will for you to be together. Strike up a conversation with her and see where things go from there. Don't brag about your life, just have a polite friendly conversation. You'll never know til you try. If it helps you can delete your facebook account too.

[Matt]

I was going to write that you are clearly obsessed with this girl but that's not right. You're obsessed with an idealized image of a girl that you've never spoken to and who doesn't know you exist. You haven't got a crush on a person, you've got a crush on a mirage (like some fan of a Hollywood actor).

I don't want to be too harsh but it's just delusional to say "maybe she would reject me"? She doesn't even know you exist!! The whole "relationship" is totally in your head.

You shouldn't contact her in any way because it will inevitably deliver a painful reality check that you might not be ready for.

If you can't get on top of this obsession, you really should get professional help.