How Can i Become More Motivated?

[ortonchampion]

I say i want to be a better person but i keep delaying...and then one minute i want to get better then next..i don't want to i like staying to myself...I'm not the social type i have problems with Self esteem and i have adhd and anxiety and bipolar..and i never was really motivated...because when it came to being pro active...i felt like i didn't fit in or Was trying to fit in....and its like when i think about really going to school as in college its like do i want to really take up theater to better my self so i can become a better talker but acting does interest me...it always did i never just took it in high school...like i've done it but had stage fright or felt cheesy...and til this day im interested in it like when i go to plays i just get that feeling like could i do that and i just get inspration to want to do it...but when it comes to actually going to sign up at a community college for it i back out and tell myself ill do it tomarrow...and even when my mom tells me i need to learn a trade and go to a trade school instead of trying to do acting at 23years old...because during high school in the mornings i went to a voltech school and took up carpentry because i loved working with my hands...and at the time i thought it was a volcational school as in like a school for media arts or whatever you wanted to get into and go into that field....after high school...but yeah i took up carpentry because i liked doing it..and you would make good money...and now its like i have no job...and am i wasting my life my still pondering for the last 4years

[wishnuwelltoo]

I feel this way too and I am 49. I feel like I lived my whole life wrong, in the wrong jobs that is. Make a list of what you need to do and then reward yourself for getting the things on your list done. Go to a technical school and talk to the counselor there and get at least three ideas for careers. Probably carpentry, computers, maybe forrest ranger, farmer, physical therapist, I don't know what you might like. Have the counselor sort it out with you. Secure a pell grant or some kind of means to pay for technical school. It probably only takes two years. Consider the military. Make a list of what you need to get done, and then write it on your calendar when you are going to do it, no excuses, just do it, then when it is done, check it off your list and give yourself a reward. Ask your mom for help since she seems like she really understands you. You might also look into programs like Habitat for humanity or something like that, where other people on the site might help you get a job or help you sort out what you are best at. You might be great at framing, or drywall, we can only guess.