My boyfriend stalks slutty girls on facebook?

[dontbeacoconutt]

Me and my boyfriend have been going out for quite a while and are really happy at the moment, we never argue and we have similar interests. However, it was not until recently which we have been having problems.

A few months ago, after he used my laptop I discovered in my search history he had stalked his ex EVERYDAY without fail for the first three months of our relationship - he doesn't do it now but I confronted him about it. It was really upsetting for me seeing this, as I had confronted him about stalking girls he has slept with or dated/liked in the past on facebook - all of whom are slutty/plastic looking but he feels no remorse whatsoever.

Today again he used my laptop and I found in my search history he had stalked another one of the girls we had discussed (he used to stalk her everyday simultaneously as he stalked his ex for three months....). I feel like he has no respect for me? Should something like this bother me? The girl he has stalked is one of those girls on the tv porn channels like 'babestation', because my boyfriend has slept with around 50 girls or more, everytime he searches them I am really paranoid it has someone he has slept with, but I can never be sure, he also regularly searches topless and naked girls - insisting he is not a pervert and does not look at porn when I confronted him.


I don't want to make a big deal about this again but I feel like he does not care at all, he insists he loves me everyday but he saw how distraught I was when I found out he stalked his ex and other slutty girls he may have slept with he just doesn't seem to change and continues - probably looking at them at work as normal, sometimes even when we are together I found out.

Shall I bring this up to him again? It is really getting me down feeling like I am not good enough even though for years I have been very confident. Why should he be lusting after other girls when we are in a commited relationship, I am not unnatractive, I am nothing but nice to him, we have great sex..... yes guys will be guys but it is hurting me.
How can I confront him about this?

[Aaron]

Dump him before it gets worse

[Jenny]

this is wat men do. u can scream till you blue in the face or cry but they never understand and will keep on doing it. they are ruled by their penis and yes he does watch porn. u have to either find a way not to care or leave him

[Martha]

you need a new boyfriend, and then don't post to facebook.

[David]

Ur being a doormat. Get him dumped then he can stalk whoever he likes.

[ImRealAwesome]

Dump him. Seriously, you can find someone better. He's obviously not over those other girls. I just ended a relationship with my bf because he kept messing with his ex girlfriends. He's wasting your time when you can be with someone who will care about you and only you. Good Luck hope everything works out!

[D R]

Guys like to look at (slutty) girls - what can I say? It's innocent. He probably knows it's innocent and that's why he doesn't seem to bother much. And when you say 'stalking', you mean that he looked at someone's facebook page or something similar? That is not stalking, that is just being curious.

I can tell you this: telling him you don't like it will have the same effect as asking him to stop breathing... It's more important what he does when he is with you. As long as he's just looking... who cares? You're the one in who's arms he ends up! So who's the winner?

[Madi Malevolent]

Don't even consider staying with him, he sounds like he won't change his stalkerish behavior and frankly you would be better off not living in constant paranoia as to what skank he's so concerned with all the time.