What is the best thing I can do for my friend?

[just me]

My friend Mikey and I have been friends since our sophomore year of High School. Throughout the years, he would be a jerk to me. An example was when I was looking through his music and he would yell at me. He would block me off of facebook and other things.

Despite that, I still tried to be good friends with him.

I'm 20 now, and about 3 months ago he confessed that he has been in love with me all these years.

This confused me because I honestly thought he hated me.

I told him things would be different if he wasn't such a jerk.

He has had an on and off girlfriend from out of state. When he confessed to me, he was broken up, the day after I rejected him, he made up with his girlfriend and she came over for about 3 months.

This monday she left town and last night he started hanging around our friend circle again.

I didn't really talk to him. I feel that his confession was a prank. You don't hurt the ones you love. He walked out of my life the day after I rejected him.

He was texting my friend last night how seeing me hurts him.


I don't know what the best thing to do for him is. I feel like us not talking is really hurting him.

Please help.

[lowjuice668]

Whether or not he actually meant his confession, he treated you as an option as an alternate for his girlfriend which is not okay at all.
Stringing you along and probably telling his girlfriend a different side of the story.

I wouldn't trust him based on this alone, not to mention all the years he was mean to you.

Just try to avoid him whenever necessary, even if he is in your circle of friends.

[Alexandra]

This guy has been a jerk to you, yet you still kept him in your life as a friend. Then, he "confessed" that he has loved you all these years. I'm smelling donkey-doo here.

It seems to me that since you are living close to him and his girlfriend isn't, he wants to string you along as his side-piece. He's texting another friend to say how hurt he is to see you just so he has his back-up in place.

This guy is a jerk. He's not even worth your time as a friend. If he meant anything that he said to you, he would have come to you and spoken with you instead of texting a friend.

You deserve better than this treatment. The best thing you can do for yourself is to stop falling for his "poor me" routine. Don't worry about what's the best thing to do for him. He's all about himself.