Talking to my crush on Facebook? should i ?

[Riot]

Okay, about this time last year, this guy I went to school with started liking my photos and commenting that i was cute and everything. He's one of my couins friends, we kinda new eachother. Lets call him Vic

Well, he messaged me saying he wanted to get to know me better. I had a boyfriend at the time. I wanted to be friends with Vic. Well, I hung out with Vic and my boyfriend and my other friend hung out with us. Vic would comment on all my photos, like all my statuses. I remember him always telling me i looked cute when he saw me at school and everything.

He called me "darlin" and everything.


Once I blew up on my bf (my ex now) but Vic saw it, and vic and his friends were hanging out with me and acted like a whiney little b*tch. the rest of the day around Vic.

I messaged Vic a few weeks later and he said "Why aint you talking to your boyfriend?" and I said "Oh, he's grounded"

Wow, I sounded so rude, I probably seemed even dumber acting all whiney that day, urgh -_-

But anyways, Vic still flirted with me afterwards. I had to delete my facebook for a few months, and when i made a new one, he never really messaged me on my new one. He commented on one of my statuses a few months ago joking around but, other than that no. I wished him happy birthday and he was like "thank ya darlin"

But i really want to talk to Vic, we dont go to school together anymore. But Ive liked his photos, and some of his statuses, he didnt flirt with any girls or like their photos like he used to on mine bc hed just got out of a relationship. But now i see hes liking girls's photos and stuff again.

He's like so pretty and tan , and his eyes just gahhh ._,

And I acted all rude and didnt hang out for him because i was dating this stupid douche who cheated on me. ugh

But you think I should message him? Is there any way he'd make the first move?
I really want to talk to him again.

[Janosz]

Aww, sorry for the tough situation.

To my novice ear, it sounds like you liked him a little and were embarrassed by your own behaviour when you acted rudely in front of him. I imagine this caused you to be a little more hesitant/reserved in communicating with him and he could have taken this as a lack of interest and backed off to protect his own feelings.

It sounds like you think he liked you at one point, so there is hope and something to work with. My best guess is that he wouldn't now make the very first move but you could probably rekindle a friendship/relationship with a little momentum from you.

My best advice is to start small and get back in contact; be friendly, chatty and warm... and don't focus on the past - don't start by apologising for past actions (and don't bring up the ex), just show that you're different to how you acted previously in your future actions.

While it's nervewracking to make yourself vulnerable in showing interest in somebody - remember (I'm assuming you're a girl here) that even though it's more common for a boy to pluck up the courage, they feel exactly the same way about it and are likely to be delighted (and feel flattered) that it happened the other way around. So go make his day =)