I feel like a complete failure, help?

[Will]

Well I can tell you I'm not complaining. But I just have felt like a complete failure recently. I'm currently going to a Community College. Heck, I've been there for 2 years now. Thankfully, I'll be graduating this fall and then moving onto University, but that's really the only good thing I have going for me right now.

Now, I don't like to compare myself to other people. But I've noticed recently that I feel like I'm a failure compared to my peers. Like I'll log onto Facebook and see one of my friends just got in a relationship, and they're always posting pictures with each other. (I've never had a girlfriend, ever). To be honest, I got so annoyed with those and feeling like crap, I would just hide those, if you know what I mean.

And then I got fired from my job back in December of last year. The reason? It apparently wasn't working out, I guess. I was trying so hard though. But when you get fired by a Dry Cleaners, you really wonder how much lower you can get. Especially where I am right now in life, I'm a 20 year old CC student. So now, I've been looking for a job and applying at places, but no joy. Most of my peers have jobs. Compare that to people who have two jobs! Man I just feel inferior.

And then, I'm Mormon. (Don't say anything mean, please). So I was supposed to go on a mission back in 2012. But no. I had some medical problems come up, and two years later, I'm still fighting them. Heck, I don't even know if I want to serve a Mormon mission. I just feel like if I don't, I won't be accepted, and won't be able to find a girlfriend that's Mormon. Just because most Mormon girls prefer guys who've served a mission. Also, I cannot tell you how annoyed I am of these kids having like 'mission call opening parties' and crap like that. It's annoying, and not to mention stupid.

I really honestly am ready to give up on life. I'm tired of school, in fact I hate my CC. It's basically like the 13th grade, it's so strange. Also, I cannot tell you how inferior I feel towards people I know who go to big Universities like BYU or whatever and such and such. They seem to be having so much fun. Meanwhile, I'm here living at home with my parents. But if it's any consolation, I have told my parents that I plan on getting a STEADY job and then moving out. That's what I wanted to do with this last job, but I got fired, so that just ruined everything.

I hope I don't come off as whining or complaining, or even having a pity party. Because I'm essentially not trying to come off as that. I'm in some need of some major help, i have almost no friend, either.

[psychiclick]

you gonna have to compress that....i don't feel like reading a novel

[Timothy Stephens]

STOP being so negative !!!! Pray and stand on the words of the religion you follow.Get some faith in you and turn your life around.
TELL YOURSELF YOU ARE A SUCCESS and drop this failure mindset.If you think you are a failure you will be !!!! change your thoughts and life will change for you.

[Dian]

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[957]

Sounds like you live in Utah. There are a lot of depressed people living in Utah. If you don't fit the mold there, you will feel judged and inferior. Heck, even if you DO fit the mold you will still feel judged and inferior. That's just what Mormonism, and especially the Utah culture, does to people. My advice to you is to give up on life. No, I don't mean suicide. I mean change your life. Change where you live, change your goals, and change the fact that you seem to be trying to live up to everyone else's expectations, as dictated by the Brethren in Salt Lake City.

Go live your own life. Be happy with who you are. Stop comparing yourself to the impossible standards set by the old guys in the ivory tower in temple square.

Good luck!

[Flora Post]

You don't sound like a loser to me. You're in school, you're looking for work (most people have been fired at one point in their life), you're working towards independence. You sound like a very productive individual to me.

Having said that, there is nothing wrong with doing a bit of self-reflection to look for areas where you can improve, but when it's all negative, you are bound to get discouraged and view yourself as a failure. Just know that others probably don't view you as a failure and if anyone does, then they have a problem.

Good luck with you schooling and don't let setback like a job at the dry cleaners get you down. That was going to be temporary anyway. Maybe somthing even better is on the horizen.