Trying to read my girlfriend?

[Taylor]

So me and my current girlfriend, who I live with have had a choppy relationship and in the past she has flirted with guys over facebook, talked about sex with guys etc, but didn't cheat. That stuff that happened is in the past so we worked past it but there has been tension here and there because of it. About a year and a half ago we got into a big fight and she ended up storming out, drunk mind you, and went to some house party. She's told me that she's cheated on boyfriend's in the past so I initially thought the worst happened that night. I asked her for hours if she cheated on me but she stuck to her answer and said no. So last night me and her decided to do some cocaine, and I've noticed that when we do cocaine we like to talk about things we wouldn't sober, you admit to things easier too. I asked her about the party she went to and wanted to see of she would admit anything, her first response was I don't know. And now I dont know... Suggestions? Cause this is killing me

[come]

this is very good question i am waiting for answer

[Sophie]

1) if you do not trust her, then you cannot build a relationship with her.
proof: your doubts and the constant fights you have with her based on the past.

2) you have doubts because you haven't fully let go of the past and it is basically haunting you. I am guessing that you do not have any closure on that topic and I even bet you think she has not stopped acting that way at all. Which you could also see when she stormed out and went to a party.

My suggestion? If you cannot stop looking over your shoulder, then let her go- not for her interest but for yours. If you have to constantly ask her if she has cheated on you, then you believe that she already has or is capable of doing it at any time. Living like that is not living at all and that fear is certainly not part of the relationship.

Hope I helped.