To say I love you...?

[Andy]

I met this guy last semester and I asked him to my fraternity's formal not knowing him very well. We ended up having a really great night. I started spending a lot of time with him fairly quickly. By the end of the month I was sleeping over at his apartment almost every night. He is so easy to talk to and I feel like I know him inside and out. I literally saw something about two sentences long he had anonymously posted on this Facebook page and (without knowing he posted it) guessed that it was him because I know how he talks so well!

The thing is, I haven't seen him since mid December because he is in Spain and is not coming back afterwards. But, I have talked to him almost every day since then and we Skype once a week and get carried away in conversation for hours. I am planning on visiting him this summer too, so I know I will see him again. I just have never had to tell someone I am in a relationship with that I love him.

I keep telling myself that he will say it back, I am almost certain he will, but I have this silly fear that he will not like me saying it. He is a very free spirited guy and likes to do things in the "now" and not worry too much about the future. I am a little bit opposite of this, and I think this is why we get along so well, because we bring something to each other that the other one is missing. Ultimately, I wonder if he will take "I love you" as a sort of determining moment that, in a sense, "ties him down" to me and keeps him from his freedom, at least the act of him saying it back. Therefore, I am hesitating to say it because I obviously don't know what he is going to say back.

Is this an appropriate time to tell him (it would be over Skype)? Should I wait until August when I will visit him (I don't think I can wait that long!)? Or maybe I should not say it ever because it won't be worth it to him? Or am I reading into this 500% too much and should I really just say it and fuck the consequences because life's too short?

Thanks guys.

[Blueribbon]

some people have a harder time saying it then others.

my boyfriend said it pretty soon which means he probably does not mean too much by it. it just means he likes being with me and can trust me to be there for him and he can tell me stuff. (i asked what he meant by it)

i on the other hand don't say it very easily at all. to me saying i love also means what me bf meant but it also means that i want to be with him for a very long time and i see a serious furture ahead. i dont believe i have to seriously say i love you to someone unless i am almost sure that he is the one. to me saying i love you means more then the fuzzy feeling, i mean it in the true love sense.

so go for it and if he does not say it, it does not mean that he does not love you, it just means that he will say it when he knows for sure.