should I tell this married man's wife he slept with me while she was 9 months pregnant?

[Undecidedlibra]

Tell him that if he contacts you again you will tell her what he is really like. Then hopefully he will worry enough to man up to his responsibilities. You should leave well enough alone and learn from your mistake and treat others the way you would like to be treated. Karma is sucky when it's your arse it's biting.

[Sweetgirl28]

Let it go! Why would you sleep with a married man anyways? It doesn't make it worse bc she's pregnant, its just worse bc you slept with a married man period! Be careful because KARMA'S A B&%$%! What goes around will come around to you!Dont mess up their marriage any further! Leave him alone! Please don't interfere anymore than you already have!

[l8tr g8tr]

You knew he was married and you hooked up with him anyways. That is on YOU. I suggest you just butt out of it entirely, cut all contact and leave them alone.

[Missy]

It both your fault and his fault. No one has 'more' to blame. You are just as much to blame regardless of how much he wooed you. His outcome, however is probably worse because he is married and in hindsight he has more to loose. I don't think by telling his wife you are ruining anyone's life. You are bringing light to something that happened. Now I don't know if you are considering telling his wife to relieve your guilt or because you truly feel that she deserves to know. Either way none of those are good things because all of the sudden you developed this sympathy towards AFTER you slept with her husband.
As a wife, I would like to know if my husband cheated on me. Some people say that she will find out sooner or later and that's just not true. I have known people that have hidden their infidelity for over 26 years! If has cheated once he is more likely to do it again unless his wife pulls some reins. That being said I would tell his wife. Maybe anonymous tip, letter? Give her what she needs and she will find out. If you don't want to get stuck in the cross fire maybe you shouldn't tell her it was you that slept with him. Depending on the type of man that he is there might be some retaliation from him and even the wife.

[Jacob]

What you want to do by informing his wife is to make sure that this guy's family is destroyed, cause you are bitter. Your bitterness is caused by the fact that this guy used you for sex because he could not sleep with his wife at the time, a wife he believes is amazing. Stop plotting your revenge and accept that you were never forced to sleep with him. If he tricked you then consider this chapter of your life closed and move on - telling his wife will make you feel better but will make another woman miserable. Delete everything about this guy from your life and stop sleeping around if you are not married. It might make you happy now but remember that some day some woman will also sleep with your husband when you least expect it.

[Another Crone]

Oh come on... you entertained an affair with him for months and then did so and you want to assign who did the most wrong and then make it even worse?

Knock it off. It would seem unlikely that he is up to this behavior with a dozen gals. You are likely the only one so the way to put a stop to it is to stop receiving or sending any communication with him whatsoever.

Do NOT tell his wife. That is flat out mean in every way. There is NO reason she needs to know that her husband had sex with his ex on the night she delivered their baby. Get your head on straight and leave this couple alone. Immediately.

[maria.ortiz32]

You should tell the wife. He may be sleeping with other woman that neither one if you girls know. You won't ruin the married, obviously its not a marriage or he wouldn't be cheating. If you don't do it, someone else will. And don't feel bad, your single and you can mingle with who ever you want to. He's the one to blame....he's married

[Ocimom]

You already ruined someone's life when you slept with the married man. So end things now and never get yourself in this situation. What do you hope to gain by telling his wife you slept with him?

[Sidney]

First of all let's look at the facts. Ok? What you and him did has absolutely nothing to do with what's between him and his wife. But, on the other hand- it has everything to do with "their" marriage. In situations like this one it's hard to know what's right, and what's wrong. It can be a whirlwind of racing thoughts and feelings. Like guilt, shame, anger, and dissapointment. I am a firm believer everybody deserves the truth it's just a matter of who they deserve the truth from, and whom should be the one to tell them the truth. It's comes down to this- YOU have a choice as do what you want to do. As a woman you have a gut instinct and you should listen to that. And his wife (being a woman as well) she also has a gut instinct. And I'm sure by now she's picked up on signs he's been cheating on her. Just remember: this isn't your fault. And it's also not your place to hold people accountable. But, it IS your place to do what you feel is the right thing to do. Only you know what to do.

[Luckycream727]

You will be doing more harm to that woman and her marriage if you go ahead to reveal to her that you had sex with her husband. You did the first harm, albeit unintentionally as you have said, when you willingly had sex with her husband. I know it sounds somehow awful for a guy to go have sex with another woman just when the wife is almost ready to put to birth. But is that the major reason why you are feeling deeply sad and worried. When you stated “he has posts on Facebook telling his friends how amazing and incredible his wife is, yet he has been trying to get me to hook up with him for months, and finally succeeded”, you leave me with the impression that you knew he was a married man and that you didn’t have problem consenting to having sex with him, only that you are feeling angry that he still went ahead to have sex with you even when his wife was nine month pregnant! You are as guilty as the man in question, if truth be told. Except your intention is to wreck havoc on the woman’s marriage, I see no reason why you should tell her about her husband’s sexual affair with you. Please put the incident behind you and move on with your life.