How do I get my friend to talk to me again?

[john]

The situation is complicated, but I had this friend, let's call her Jane, a few years ago in high school. We had become friends in German class and we went to Germany together with a couple other people from our German class in a foreign exchange program. It was great because it brought us so much closer (in a non romantic way). We had become such great friends there, we hung out a lot, we talked a lot, we went out a lot. It was great. When we got back, however, my girlfriend at the time became extremely jealous of the fact that Jane and I went to Germany together, as she didn't get to go. She was always accusing me of having a "thing" with Jane. Even with consistent denial, she still bothered me about it. Then one day, someone sent my girlfriend an anonymous email saying that Jane and I had slept together in Germany and we'd been sleeping with each other ever since. After a few days of pleading with my girlfriend that it wasn't true, she finally started to believe me, but as "proof" asked me to stop being friends with Jane. I was astounded at the request, but I thought I was in love with my girlfriend and I don't like lying, let alone cheating so I stopped being friendly with Jane. I stopped talking to her in class, even when she would try to play and joke around with me. When the semester ended, I had to defriend her on Facebook as per request of my girlfriend. I never spoke to Jane again. It's been about 3 years or so and I finally had the last straw with my girlfriends controlling behavior and broke up with her, and I really want to reconnect with Jane. I have wanted to all three years. Now there are new issues, though. One of them being, she doesn't want to talk to me, I tried talking to her again on Facebook again apologizing for being a jerk and she hasn't responded (it's been a few months), another is the fact that I don't have her number anymore (guess why), and even if I did it wouldn't matter because she's a marine stationed in Japan. How can I fix this? What can I say to her? Or am I just far too late?

[nadia]

If you guys are meant to be friends, you will be friends. If not ... then it will be painful to get through the 'getting over it' process. There will be more people in your life. Everyone effects/teach you something. If it is painful, remember, 'what doesn't kill you makes you stronger'
smile, you will be happy. I promise