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Jose · 02-19-2014, 12:30 PM

So this girl I reeeeeally reallly like rejected me twice with about 5 months in between each rejection... So I've begun to avoid her when I see her at our school activity ever few weekends because I do not want to like her again... but I kinda do want to like her again... But she starts conversations with me a lot via text and when we are at our activity on weekends she always texts me to come over and hang out with her and our other friends. WHAT. IDEK. Then we have a group facebook conversation with some of our friends and we talk a lot there. But I want to think that she is giving me signs... but I am scared that I will be wrong. I also want to stop avoiding her but I think if I stop avoiding her then she will stop wondering why I'm avoiding her and never think back to maybe he is avoiding me because I rejected him twice and she won't try to reconsider (if that makes sense).
So I was just talking to her on the facebook group chat and she said that next time I come through her city (which I do every now and again to visit my brother) then I should tell her so me and her and a few of our other friends that live in her city can hang out. Is this good or bad? Because it's with friends so that may mean nothing. But also she wants to hang out at the same time?? Should I go for it and hang out with her??
Most people have said just talk to her and see what's up. Some say keep avoiding her. Maybe I should just avoid her in person? But what are these weird signs she is giving (if any). I am probably just overreacting, though.

Thanks in advance.

Kenny · 02-19-2014, 12:36 PM

Ask her if she wants to hang out just you and her . If she says yes than you have a shot .

ViolentNinja275 · 02-19-2014, 12:40 PM

Sounds something like what happened to me recently. I went with a guy for 3 weeks and then i broke it off, thinking we were both on the same page in that we were simply mismatched. I was wrong, and he ignored me for the next 3 weeks (and counting). I tried a few times to ask if he wanted to play a game together with some friends, but he looked the other way and mumbled a "no-thanks" or something. I felt terrible, and just wanted to make things better and become friends again.
Maybe this girl of yours is trying to forgive herself for rejecting you by talking to you more. She sounds very nice. If you make friends with her and quit ignoring her, you'll look more mature, and thus more attractive, to girls all around you. Let her know it's ok, and try too move on. After all, life is so much better when your not stressing over weather someone like you or not. Hope this helps and good-luck!