I REALLY want to click on her Facebook profile?

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I REALLY want to click on her Facebook profile?
Me and my girlfriend recently broke up. We'd ended it before but always got back together but this time, she ended it and we have stayed finished. Obviously I'm upset but I though the best way to try and get over her is to loose contact. I haven't text or rang her (she hasn't text or rung me) and I haven't been on Facebook chat incase she's there and I panick or something, because I really don't want it to end with her. I used to "spy" on her on Facebook just to see what she has been up to but I decided that it didn't help me and a couple of days ago decided to stop. I just found saw that she has changed her profile picture and I am REALLY tempted to go through her Facebook to see her recent tags, whos written on her wall, whos wall she has written on, etc. I know this won't help me but I really feel like doing it one more time.

What should I do? Can you lot help me please?

Do you guys have any tips to help me get over her?

Thank you

[Jake]

Facebook is so terrible for break-ups. Do not look at her Facebook. You'll find yourself hating everyone she is in a picture with. If she adds a guy as a friend, you'll hate him, too. I would delete her from Facebook, for now at least. It will help you both immensely.

[sherry]

Click on it then. Not like she'll know.

Well get some proper closure so you can move on?

Staying friends isn't always a bad thing; staying friends with my ex makes me feel alot better actually.

[Alexandra]

I agree this won't help. You need closure. Give her a call and confirm things and find someone else. Or give it time. Facebook is terrible but try to hang in there. Hope this helps

[♥]

I agree that staying friends is sometimes ok with break-ups, but in this case, I think it would be unhealthy for you. By constantly checking up on her Facebook, you're not distracting yourself from her, she will still be in your head, and you'll be wondering about what she's doing now, etc. This will not help you if you want to move on. I recommend, to solve the clicking on her profile issue, to remove her as a friend and block her. Literally FORCE yourself to quit checking up on her. I know how you feel though, I was the same when me and my last boyfriend broke up; I'd check his Facebook profile but it really doesn't help at all so I told myself to stop, and I can't remember the last time I went on his profile. Also, blocking her would be an idea because even if you do succeed in resisting the temptation to go on her profile, you'll still be updated on her activity in your newsfeed. Even seeing her name will make you think of her, and that's the opposite of what you want. You want to get her OUR of your head, not to be reminded of her. Remove her as friend and block her. Remove all contact from her, it's like deleting her from your life. You could get back in contact with her when you are over her, possibly, just to be friends, but for now you need to destroy all hope of getting back together. That is the first step of moving on. It happened once but it isn't gonna happen this time. Accept that the relationship had its time but now its over, I'm sorry I know it sucks when you're heartbroken but all pain passes in time. I would know! Let yourself be upset for awhile, you need to go through the grieving process and sadness is an essential part of it. But sooner or later, you need to realize that being upset is getting you nowhere. At that moment enough will be enough. That's when you should start DISTRACTING yourself. It's hard to stop them from randomly popping up in your head sometimes, but don't let yourself think about her/memories. As soon as you think of her, do something else to DISTRACT yourself. Whatever your hobbies are, or talk to someone else, hang out with someone, ring someone, study, listen to music (music is a GREAT way to get over someone else - I recommend "Ridin' Solo" by Jason Derulo" or "Hate (I Really Don't Like You)" by The Plain White Tees). Get into something new you've always wanted to try and let that fill up spare time, get yourself out there and meet new people, get to know them, have a good time and enjoy being single. Enjoy your freedom and, I love this one, think about the possibilities of the future. You never know what will happen. Now this chick is gone, you're open to meeting new girls, one who will be better for you than your ex. You can flirt with other girls now, guilt-free. It's liberating! Enjoy it. Be POSITIVE about the future and this situation, knowing that gradually you'll get over her and you will be happy again because you deserve nothing less! ^-^

Links on getting over someone:

"Getting over an ex and move on after a break up" - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7O_9Zu-XB...plpp_video
look at the suggestions to the right of the video or search more videos about getting over someone.

Best of luck, hope this helps you! Stay positive and you will get through this! ^-^ xx