I think my dad is having an affair? what do I do?

[Emily]

I was looking for a picture in my dad's phone and I noticed a lot of pictures of this lady. they looked like a picture she took without anyone knowing like she was in public or something but then there were also a few pictures of boobs. she's the same complexion as my mom so they might be her boobs but tbh they looked too small and also why would my mom be sending my dad nudes if they live together? anyway I got curious so I looked at his Facebook and I found his messages to this woman. it was all pretty normal stuff but she kept calling him sweetheart. I know I'm not related to her in any way so she's not like his aunt or something. he didn't know I was looking at his pictures otherwise he probably would've stopped me. he's always very protective of his phone. he always has it with him and never lets other people use it. also his apple account sends every message he gets to his iPad and he takes his iPad with him everywhere. at first I thought he was just weird but now I'm realizing it might be because he doesn't want anyone to accidentally see a message from her? I know it's not much but I'm really scared. I'm the youngest of 3 children with the oldest in collage. I'm still in high school. what should I do? do I tell my mom? how could I find out more???

[Iratecherries259]

Your mom may be sending pictures of herself to your dad; even though they live together it's not weird, its one of those things that spices up relationships when you get older and more committed. As for the "sweetheart" in messages, that's not really all too weird, some women just use stuff like that because they think its nice to address everyone that way. The protectiveness over his stuff isn't weird either, he's got three children, he probably just wants some privacy for himself. Unless you have more tangible proof, don't proceed. Tangible proof is things like full on conversations involving sexting-type language and nudes with the face in his text messages. Nudes in general is just porn otherwise. Be careful, and don't be quick to jump to conclusions.

[john]

I would ask him. I would not tell my mother. I would tell him exactly what you have seen and tell him how worried you are. Tell him he doesnt have to tell you the truth but you dont think you could ever forgive him if after telling him your suspicions, it is found out that he had or is having an affair. Tell him if he is to sort his s#%t out and end it.

If your mum isnt enough for him he should try and work on his marraige with her before he goes elsewhere and wrecks a whole family. I would show him this on yahoo answers. Dont ask for truth, its likely he wont give it. Ask him to stop before its too late if something is happening and that you will forgive him if he does. You dont need details.