is a guy controlling if he doesn't want you to have facebook or go out?

[Queen Bee]

Would you dump him? Or would you be flattered that someone is actualy concerned about you? Or is this just a way of controlling someone

[John Answer]

Caring would lead to flattery. Controlling would lead to being dumped. Not being allowed to have FB or go out is controlling.

[Jon G]

Yes.

[Sophie]

Hi, with the small amount of info provided it sounds like he is controlling you- unless he has REALLY good reasons. And if a guy wanted me to focus on only him to the point where i cant go on facebook, go out or even hang with friends because he wants to be the center of attention and feel important then yes I probably would dump him

[platinum2010]

I would say definitely controlling. Be careful.

[Emily]

Yes, not being able to have a Facebook page and not being able to go out is controlling. If I were you, yes, I would dump him. I was once in a controlling relationship myself, lasted far longer than it should have and to even top that, I was engaged to him for about 3 months of our entire relationship. I was in the "love bubble" and love is blind, I did not ever see that he was controlling until after the fact. The fact being that I broke up with him and looked back. Shoot, had I of ever married him, to say the least, I would have found a way to have the marriage annulled. Trust me when I tell you that not being able to have a Facebook page and not being able to go out especially is controlling. The guy I was with controlled where we went, what I wore, what we did, everything. After that relationship (he was nice in the beginning), I vowed I would not ever put myself into that situation again. Well, it's been 7 years and I have not placed myself in that type of situation and I won't.

Get away from him and find a man you deserve. You are better than that.

[Ellie]

That is controlling. I would notify him first, and if he didn't change I would probably end it. Nobody wants to be told how to live their life.