What is the best approach to get my ex to stay out of my business?

[joyous]

We have a child together so this complicates matters a little. We have been separated for several years (were never married). He got married and is now in the middle of a divorce. He has recently begun his relationship with our child after many years of no contact at all. In the beginning, I was simply friendly and listened to him talk about his pain over his marriage failure. He is still trying to work things out with her. At some point I became weary of listening to this and stopped interacting with him on this subject. His marriage is his concern. I am not interested in getting together with him. But he has made several comments about getting back together if he gets divorced. The reasons we broke up are all still there as he has not changed so I am not interested. And I am not playing second to anyone. If I am not the first choice, I am not a choice at all. I want our relationship to be friendly and involve our mutual parenting, but nothing more. I have told him that I am not interested in a romantic relationship and hope he and his wife can work it out. He calls several times a week to talk to our child and he and I have brief conversations then and during the times he picks up our daughter. He has asked me some very detailed financial questions, and I told him that it was not his business and it makes me uncomfortable that he asks. He comments on what I am reading as far as what I should or should not be reading, or how I am spending my time, or who I spend time with. He is constantly telling me what I should or should not be doing according to his perspective. He has also begun commenting on my social media updates by questioning what they are in reference to and stating how appropriate or not the comments are. I have told him in as many ways possible that there is no future for us. I have made it a point to continue living my life and letting him know that he and I will not be together. He can't seem to take no for an answer and keeps trying to control me. If I am busy or do not want to talk to him, he gets offended. If I call him on his attempts to control me I am told that I am being moody. I don't want our parenting relationship to be awkward. I feel like he has self-esteem issues because of his recent break up and he is looking for validation. How can I get him to understand that his actions are not appropriate for our non-romantic relationship?

[alexander w]

.Tell him he made his choices a long time ago.He was convinced then about his rights,duties and lifestyle.He was wrong then,just as he's wrong now.What he needs to do is stop trying to manipulate people and grow up.He needs to look in before he looks out.Tell him you don't need,want or heed his advice