Does he like me at all? What is happening?

[Pinkmartini]

So 2 weeks ago I arrived in Ireland as an international student. From the first day I really like a guy I met but we didn't see each other for several days. On last Wednesday I had arranged with some friends to go for a coffee and they invited him. We spoke all together and it was really fun. With that guy we hear the same music so we discused a little about that and we said maybe we could go all together again to a party the next day. When I returned home he sent me some songs on facebook and we talked. The next day was the party and we run into each other again, we danced alot and then at some point he asked me if he could kiss me, I said yes so we kissed. We returned home together and again he sent me some other songs on facebook and we talked again.
After that we didnt spoke very much, and when we went to the same pub by accident he seemed to avoid me.. At first I didnt do anything, I thought that maybe he didnt want something more(which is ok with me) but at some point because he was really avoiding me I asked him if everything is ok between us. And then he started to talk to me, we really discussed a lot of things and when we returned at home(again the 2 of us) we sent some songs we like and we spoke for 2 hours. And after that he just kept avoiding me once again.
Now I'm really confussed, at first I thought maybe he is just shy(it looks like he's extremely shy and a little inexperienced) but every time I have to talk first...and he keeps avoiding me. He sent me some random messages on fb after some days we hadnt talk at all and at some point he sent a group message to arrange something with me and our friends, but he didnt show up. And the next day he didnt come to a party I think because of me. Today though I was suppose to cook for some friends and he showed up even though I didnt invite him... What is happening? i really dont understand... I think I like him a lot, even if I dont really want to..

[m and]

Ummmmmmmmmm....……………… okay so I think you should GET OFF YOUR A** AND ask if he likes you!!! CMON YPU ARE BETTER THAN THAT!!! AND IF HE IS STILL AVOIDING YOU, CRASH ALL OF HIS PARTIES!!! KISS THAT LITTLE GUY AGAIN!!! Now go get that little bastard

[Scott]

Sounds like he's socially inept. Maybe he's a little shy. He keeps reaching out with songs and stuff - his avoidance could have been a lot of things ( another girl in the pub, fear he looked bad, fear he had bad breath, fear he was too drunk to be charming ).

The sending songs is a communication shortcut. It's a way to say what he thinks without him having to come up with a way to say them. If the songs were just shared experience songs or songs from a genre you both like - he may be trying to broaden your perspective. All good signs.

If I were you - I would not worry about it. Talk to him when you can. Don't be afraid to make a bold move like a sudden kiss. He is probably just as concerned about your level of liking him as you are with his.

The only downside is that this may be a game. Some people use shy to get the girl to follow along - then they get you to fall for them - and they get bored. Watch out for that - especially if he's really attractive.

Peace