Gay Online Dating Advice?

[Matt]

Hi Guys! So I have a serious question that has turned into a major issue in my life in the past three years, and if anyone that has used gay online dating has any advice, that would be fantastic.

I'm a 21 year-old attractive male, I have a bachelor's degree and will be attending medical school within the next year. In my free time, I enjoy studying, traveling, going out, hanging out with friends and playing with my german shepard. I have always considered myself and extremely nice guy and my friends are constantly telling me that "you're too nice, you're going to get run over." I also have a full-time job and play tennis professionally.

I am extremely independent and self-sufficient and enjoy being alone. However, at times, I do long for a boyfriend/partner. It is very difficult for me to meet nice gay guys my age in public partially because I have lived in 2 of the most conservative states in the union my entire life (Texas and Arizona.) The few openly gay individuals I have met in the past few years in these states have been generally nasty individuals (no job, no education, party every night, rude and just general low lives.) I have been extremely offset by the gay community in both of these states, even after joining the Queer Student Alliance at my university.

I turned to online dating beginning in 2011. Since, I have used OkCupid, POF, Mingle2 and Match.com. I have used each of these sites off and on and have created several accounts with each of these online dating sites. I have added lots of photos and created thorough profiles on each of these sites. I have met five people from these sites in the past three years.

With each of these five individuals I have seen, we would talk via the website for a few days, talk via text for a few days, chat by phone a few times for a few days, then finally meet in person a few weeks after our initial contact on the website. In each of these cases, the first dates have gone very well. And we will go out on several more dates, leading to much more intimate and romantic times.

Something very strange has happened in each of these cases though. Once things have become intimate, I get totally cut off. He totally stops responding to texts, phone calls, emails, and facebook chats. He will not even speak to me!

In each of these cases, I always catch myself scrolling through our previous texts, and replaying all prior conversations we had in my head to see if I had done or said something wrong, and nothing! Everything was going great in each of the cases!

Should I give up on online dating? It really seems that all of the guys I have met are after only one thing! And I'm so tired of being hurt.

Also, where would you recommend I meet quality guys?

Any advice would be appreciated

[F.K]

dating sites are just useless they have nothing but just some guys like you mentioned. Try to find your soul-mate at some social network. Although there are also fake people but you will find someone nice and long lasting from there.
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