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Is it fair for my boyfriend to do a subliminal test to me in this way?
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Is it fair for my boyfriend to do a subliminal test to me in this way?
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Is it fair for my boyfriend to do a subliminal test to me in this way?
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10-14-2012, 02:47 PM
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Is it fair for my boyfriend to do a subliminal test to me in this way?
Ok, here goes, ive been in a relationship with my current bf for about 10 months now.. i love him so much its incredible. He has made me feel more complete than any man ever has and there are so many great qualities about him.. there are also a few small negative ones as well.. he cant leave my past in the past, and he has a problem with me having a facebook, twitter, and myspace, all of which i had before i met him, i told him i have no problem showing him everything on there but sumhow this issue keeps arising.. there is no reason for him to not trust me or doubt me.. Ok now to the next issue.. I like to read entertainment gossip online (mediatakeout.com bossip.com) all harmless websites, however he doesnt like these sites.. he tries to make me feel like i am a groupie for following and reading up on these things, when i just look to see new fashion trends, new info on musicians, just basic entertainment info. I dont try to reach out on websites and contact celebs or anything like that.. well the other day i was lookin at mediatakout while me and my bf were watchin a basketball game.. well he knew i was on the site, and the first thing that comes up is an article about kanye west nude pics being leaked out.. well that wasnt even an article i particularly cared about or wanted 2 see (i mostly like looking at articles about female celebs) so he asked what the article was about.. and i told him oh i guess some nude pics got out of kanye.. well he tells me to click the link and look @ the pics.. i said i dont care about that article.. which i didnt.. so he says again to just look.. so i clicked the link.. 2 days later he flips out saying why i was looking at d*ck on his laptop and all kinds of crazy ****, saying he was testing me to see if i would really click it and look.. i was like are you serious??? then he was sayin just because i tell you to do it, your gunna do it??? would u jump of a bridge if i told u??? would u have sex with someone else if i told you to do it??? i feel like his way of checkin to see if im a trustworthy person was just crazy, and messed up!!! I really love and care for him, and I dont care about looking at pics of other guys online and things like that.. i am 110% satisfied with how my boyfriend looks and dont feel i need anything/anyone else....One thing--my boyfriend has made sacrafies for me and our relationship.. he plays pro basketball, and adjusted his schedule to mine completly, he moved with me away from his hometown and basically all of his time is dedicated to me and basketball.. so he feels like i am not giving him 100% of me by visiting these websites.. can you offer your opionion on the situation?? am i in the wrong looking at these sites?? does he have a legit reason not wanting me on there??? would it cause harm to a relationship??
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10-14-2012, 02:55 PM
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he's being jealous and he doesn't trust you and your intentions.
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10-14-2012, 02:55 PM
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10-14-2012, 02:55 PM
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This is like the 2nd or 3rd time you have posted this same thing...
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10-14-2012, 02:55 PM
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Sounds like he's got serious trust issues. Just because he's moved to be with you doesn't mean he gets to control every aspect of your life. If he's got a problem with you reading gossip sites and using facebook etc. then it's his problem, not yours. He needs to deal with whatever is causing him to have these trust issues rather than trying to stop you visiting the sites.
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10-14-2012, 02:55 PM
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Maybe the fact that you visit these sites disturb him .. sometimes its just not jealousy but a feeling of protection that a guy has for you .. he cares so much about you .. he has made many sacrifices and i think that in today's materialistic world... very few guys do this ... he does truly love you .. he just has this possessive feeling .. thats it .. and i think that to some extent it is okay for him to feel that way ...you should make some sacrifice on your part too ... .. i think that he may have seen some girls search for stuff like that .. and you know how the world today is .. these porn sites and crazy stuff like that ....
you could visit these sites when he is not at home .. or when he doesnt see you surfing ... that way he and you .. both will be satisfied ... |
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10-14-2012, 02:55 PM
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Ok...
let me tell you this from a psychologist perspective. YOU ARE NOT WRONG AT ALL. The thing is, he is just a very jealous person. And jealousy tends to be ok to a certain extent. But him not letting you have a facebook account, etc...is actually called "social abuse". That's a sick kind of Jealousy that is very unhealthy in a relationship. I guarantee you, he tells you all the stuff he does for you..just to make you feel like you don't do enough for him, then you start to wonder (like now) if he's right, and you should do what he says. DON'T FALL FOR IT. Honestly, If he is doing this, it's because he's done it before, or he is doing it now. He knows how easy it is to cheat through facebook, and doesn't want YOU to do it. He knows how easy it is to flirt with other girls, and doesn't want YOU to do it. He knows how easy it is to see naked pictures of celebs in those websites because HE watches em, and realizes that YOU can too! He makes you feel guilty over something that quite honestly, is not bad at all! He does NOT have a legit reason to make you feel like that. Just by the way you write here, I can tell how much you love him. THAT should be enough for him! but apparently he doesn't see it. So many guys in this world would want to have a girl as loyal as you are, and he can't even appreciate it. He has to give you so many restrictions because of his own guilt he has inside. I mean... think about it. If you flirted with other guys through facebook...would you want HIM to have one? realizing that he can find out easily, and he can do it as well? ....no! Don't let him do this to you. This is a very sick kind of jealousy. If it starts like this, he will control you a lot if you guys ever get married. He will control who you can be friends with, who you can't. Where you can go out. When. Etc. Be careful. And put a stop to this. Good luck. Take care! |
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