How do I make myself suited to my girlfriend's busy social life?

[Jake]

Me and my girlfriend are in a relationship for about 4 months now and I can assure you, we are into each other because we are quite similar and we understand each other a lot. In our case, she asked me out first and I said yes. I am the first guy she did that with. Since then we've entered into a relationship and we talk with each other on a daily basis. Thing is, she has a vast social circle as she's always engaged in a large number of cultural activities in the school at inter-school levels. This makes guys hit on her all the time. But we don't have any secrets between us and whenever something like this happens, she always tells me. She shares all her worries as well as her joys with me. She also hangs around with a lot of guys of her locality, who are friends and brothers of her since long. But at the end of the day, we talk to each other over Facebook or text and she tells all about her day to me. She's had one break-up in the past, but she told me all about it. She also has some vices, which she willingly revealed to me a couple months ago.

Now I don't wanna be a restrictive boyfriend at all but her interactions with so many guys leaves me feeling insecure at times or sometimes I feel like she's hiding things from me, even though I'm sure she's not. My major problem is, we haven't met yet, but I've seen her a couple of times and she's also heard a great deal about me. Unlike most other guys, I'm not someone who flirts around with girls and we both take our relationship seriously. This is another reason why she respects me and our relationship. She also depends upon me to get her through tough times and in turn she helps me out with my problems. She's very eager to meet me, but we can't 'cause we've got exams ahead and I'm like under house arrest.

What I wanna ask is, how do I make myself feel comfortable with all of it? I know this is just another one of the numerous perks of being in a romantic relationship with someone, but it does trouble me at times. How do I positively assure myself that everything is fine and just push this thought to one corner of my mind so it can't resurface?

[Bumblebee]

I think you first step to getting more comfortable is to be able to physically confront each other on a regular basis. If all you're doing is texting and talking via social media, no wonder you have doubts and worries.

The only way I see getting rid of this discomfort is expressing your concern to her.Start by expressing your desire to meet, and if she turns you down with exams as an excuse, ask her for a potential date in the future that you can meet. You need to push until you have a set plan of when you will meet her. If she keeps on making excuses or bails on the date, then there are other issues, but for now I think this is the best you can do.

When you meet her and realize you really do like her and trust her, all the worries will drift away. Its almost impossible to maintain a relationship without every meeting/confronting the person; any person in your situation would have the exact same worries!