Should I ask my old best friend to catch up?

[anon]

We used to be BEST friends. From when we were seven until about 14 we would see each other seven days a week. When we started high school (Seventh grade here) we began to drift apart because we had no classes together. She became friends with a group of girls who really dislike me and the group that I grew to become friends with. We still spoke when we saw each other and hung out on weekends and school holidays, but as the years went we saw each other less and less.

It got to the point where we would catch up once every school holidays and that was it. Every time we would hang out she would say, "Oh my gosh how crazy is it that we've been best friends for (however many years) now!" Which lead me to believe she wanted to stay friends. But then I started to feel like I was the only one putting in any effort. I was always the one to say, "Hey want to catch up on (whatever day)?" She would say yes and then cancel on me and give me a reason, but then later I would see on facebook that she was with her other friends.

When we did catch up, we would have so much fun. We can make conversation out of anything and talk for hours and hours and then be like, "Wait what were we even talking about?" and I've never had that with anyone else.

So three school holidays ago, I wanted to see if she would ask to hang out if I didn't. I didn't say anything, and she didn't. I was angry and for the next two school holidays I didn't talk to her either and avoided her at school. Even though we don't really talk at school anyway. I feel like she's embarrassed to because I'm not exactly popular and she is.

Now I just miss her. I miss having such a good friend. We're almost 18 now and going into our last year of school at the beginning of February. Should I ask her to hang out?

[Cat]

Yes!!! What have you got to loose? Maybe she's afraid it will be awkward or something! You don't know her reasons. But if she says no then wonder if she's really a good friend and if she's still the same person as before because people do change but its worth a try to ask her! Good luck

[just wants to know]

Yes. Life is fleeting; always ask a friend to hang out.

[Anizha Jakcson]

Yes!!!

[Cecilia]

Why sure, go ahead invite her, it's a test !! She might be too busy to tell you for a hang out or too reserve to invite you to places. You know, both of you have grown up and have changed. You have met different friends and have different interest now. Don't expect that your closeness when you were 14 will stay the same until you will be 18. Many factors have influenced her and you as years went.Yes you are still friends but it's up to that. She might have other concerns, or might have met other friends strangers to you so she couldn't invite you to join them unless she wants to introduce you to them. Don't feel angry at her. Instead make new friends as well and expand your acquaintance so that you will not concentrate on her. Like her, you will also be busy communicating with good new friends.