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- wildmirage - 11-09-2012 09:40 AM
The answer may differ depending on the community you belong to; if you know that you belong to an orthodox community then you know that you cannot be sending friend requests to other men once you are married. I know many people have said that you can be friends without being in a physical relationship. But the thing is you need to face reality. And if your husband has issues with it, then you will only lay up unhappiness and strife for yourself if you continue on this course. I mean, are you going to risk your marriage for this stupid FB friendship? Its silly. You are committed in marriage to this man, so you will have to abide by this. Or else be ready for a life outside marriage. In Western societies, women befriending men is normal and not an issue. But in an orthodox community even your friend requests will be viewed as flirtatious by other men of the same community! And they may think of you as an immoral woman. There is a cultural divide which has not been bridged yet. Idealistic answers will not help you in your situation, practical ones may.
- wildmirage - 11-09-2012 09:40 AM
Let me just ask you this. What is your intent behind this? Is it truly just to make new friends on Facebook? The problem with making friends with men on the internet that you don't know is they very well could think you looking to fool around on your husband. My advice would be to accept friends on Facebook from men both you and your husband know. At least this way you will keep the peace with your husband.
- Eric L - 11-09-2012 09:40 AM
it depends more on how you know these men. If its men who were on the high school debate with you, work with you and you share interests with, etc then sure.
If its ex lovers, or just random men, then no.
- L - 11-09-2012 09:40 AM
If you ask all of these men if they wanted to have sex with you, most of them, if not all will. Most of them will try to befriend you in hopes of sleeping with them. Knowing that...you still want to make friends with them?? How do you think that will make your husband feel? Now, ask yourself this, are more people having affairs more than ever? How do you think affairs start? Usually at friendship.
Now, if you see nothing wrong with that, then allow your husband to start friending young girls. You can't just be an online friend, so let him go out with other girls for dinner. A lot of people will say it's okay, but a better question is how many friends they slept with. Ask them about their own experiences. I know that for most people who say they wouldn't cheat and cheating is wrong...it's funny how most of them do cheat. Feel free to ask advice, but also ask their own experience.
- Kittysue - 11-09-2012 09:40 AM
It depends who the men are. If they are people you grew up with, went to school with or work with then it's not a problem. If they are random people you don't even know personally, not only is it wrong but potentially dangerous to friend people who are strangers
- Chrissy - 11-09-2012 09:40 AM
Why not? I have never seen a law that says women can't be friends with men. Its not like your bopping all these guys. Geesh, he needs to lighten up and relax.