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Can somebody help me? Advice!? - Ashley A - 11-09-2012 11:39 AM
I am very shy. I don't do well with big groups. I would
be the loser sitting in the back, alone. Even at family
gatherings. I hate it! No one makes me feel
comfortable and I relized it's just me with the problem!
I dropped out of school due to my depression, and
just other issues. I take full responsibility for my actions and I am currently studying for my GED test so I can find work.
This shyness has been a part of me my whole life! It's
more like social anxiety! At the age of seven I was getting sexually abused and physically abused. Now, instead of my ex-step, father and brother doing it, my
older brother will call me ugly, dumb *****, fat ***, and more.
I really had grown to really dislike my brother. Whenever we talk he insults me! Whenever I be nice he insults me so I began just ignoring him because I am sick of this!
I already want to commit suicide due to me not feeling
loved by this girl I've known for years. Nobody knows
but it hurts me dearly. I want her to forgive me and I
think she can tell how awkward I am.
I would post a simple status up, "I got to baby sit today! Ugh" . I would not get any likes, nothing! My little cousins got more likes than me! Ugh. I de-activated my facebook today because I can't stand this feeling of being ignored!
I need help in order to stop this social anxiety. It follows me in person to ONLINE! It sucks so much! I just want to cry! From me being abused, I don't want to open up to anybody! I already don't open up and people still hurt me! I need help, please! :'( advice! I need to make a change! I am crying now!
- Franken Beans - 11-09-2012 11:47 AM
I'd suggest taking 12 aspirin tablets at once.
- Chris Land - 11-09-2012 11:47 AM
jesus is the answer for all of us. groundwire.net
- Light and Truth - 11-09-2012 11:47 AM
http://www.lds.org/general-conference/2008/04/to-heal-the-shattering-consequences-of-abuse?lang=eng
http://www.lds.org/ensign/2008/09/hope-and-healing-in-recovering-from-abuse?lang=eng
http://www.lds.org/general-conference/2012/04/mountains-to-climb?lang=eng&query=abuse
- Kris V - 11-09-2012 11:47 AM
It may sound strange but you definitely need to change your diet. Eat plenty of fresh salmon or foods infused with Omega 3 fatty acids. Depression and social anxiety are closely linked. Also, get off that social media garbage once you do you will feel much better. Social media is almost an addiction, it is a form of narcissism.
Be true to yourself! You have the strength you need to do whatever it is you want to achieve
Be very aware of the various forms of emotional crutches like medication, addiction, narcissism and above all- religion as they will only prolong your pain.
- Ashnod - 11-09-2012 11:47 AM
Do you have health insurance? Seeing a therapist can help a lot with depression and social anxiety. There's also the possibility of medication, which can help regulate the neurotransmitters that contribute to feelings of anxiety and depression, and make your symptoms a lot more manageable with cognitive therapy. You shouldn't have to deal with these issues without help.
- suzie the pilgrim - 11-09-2012 11:47 AM
I hope there is a person around you trust.
Talk to her. It is good that you'd like to overcome this social anxiety.
Perhaps you need professional help,
but I don't know about this in the USA.
Here in Germany it is free.
I hope you get some help. Best wishes for you.
- Capt Dynamo - 11-09-2012 11:47 AM
You need Jesus. Well, everybody needs Jesus, but you need Him now. Find a bible and read a gospel. That is my suggestion. Jesus can work a miracle in you.
- Pish and Fiddle - 11-09-2012 11:47 AM
You're going through a lot of pain, and I'm very sorry to hear that. It's not easy to feel out-of-step with those around you.
I would suggest trying a period of therapy. I know it's not cheap (far from it), but if you live near a university, many have psychology clinics associated with their graduate school's psychology department that will treat you for little or no money. If that's not an option, check out your local mental health services - most counties have SOME plan in place to assist others. You may have to do a little research to find a place, but they ARE out there.
I'd also suggest contacting your doctor. Make an appointment and write down exactly what you've said here to show him/her. You can work together to find something that will help you with the depression and anxiety you're going through.
As to social media: it has its place, but don't let it rule your life. Get out in the REAL world, and do the things you care about. One of the best places in the world to get a little recognition is to do some volunteer work. There are ALWAYS groups out there that can use an extra set of hands; there are NEVER enough people to d all the work that needs to be done. Whatever your personal interests may be, I can promise you that SOMEBODY needs your help. Again, it's not something that you want to allow to dominate your life - a healthy balance is always important to maintain - but you will be among like-minded people doing something you believe in, and that's not a bad place to be.
Best of luck!
- Randy the Atheist - 11-09-2012 11:47 AM
You should join the military. It'll take you far away from the mess you're in and they offer a wealth of trauma services and counselling. Also, start reading ALL of John Maxwell's books on leadership like The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership. It'll help grow your leadership skills and develop a more positive, optimistic side to your personality. Your extreme negativity is causing 1/3 of your problems. The army will also help you develop higher self-confidence. This is crucial to the success of your therapy.
***EDIT***
Wait a minute. Are you female? If you're female then ignore what I wrote. Females handle trauma differently from males and the army would exacerbate your condition.