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- Meghan - 01-26-2013 02:07 PM
Things like this just make my mind boggle. I can't imagine telling my husband that he can or can't have a facebook page if he wanted one. Of course, I can't imagine my husband telling me that I can or can't have one, either. Your friend sounds intensely insecure. I do not think these sites caused her insecurities, and so in that sense, I don't believe they cause problems in marriages, but they might reveal that a marriage already has problems to begin with.
- Abigail Grech - 01-26-2013 02:07 PM
use it properly no confidence to anyone and you should work everything out
- Cap Itulate - 01-26-2013 02:07 PM
I think anything can cause a problem in a marriage, if the couple allows it to.
- Angeles - 01-26-2013 02:07 PM
NOT at all.. Me and My ex had facebook. We NEVER fought over it.. it actually made more clear to the world who his wife was. We would always laugh and talk about it.. (different reason why he is my ex..lol.)
I know lot of woman and man who don't have FB because they are in a relationship . I find that ridiculous, and pure jealousy.
- Al B - 01-26-2013 02:07 PM
Face book has gotten a bad reputation for that but if a marriage is good, there will be no problem but if a marriage has problems there will be cheating whether it is facebook, eharmony, or a porn site that will get the blame. It may even be that when phones first became more common people blamed them for hurting marriages perhaps when it was the people, not the means of communication which caused the problems.
- sunny - 01-26-2013 02:07 PM
They can cause problems. Not everyone is above temptation and not everyone is trusting. There are a lot of people that wouldn't be tempted otherwise, but by having opportunity right on their computer screen, it gets complicated. I have an ex that had trouble with staying out of sexual conversations on line. It got to the point that he was so into his online life that we didn't have sex anymore...which led to fighting, not being able to trust him and it just wasn't good. We've started speaking again (it's been 3 years) and this is one of the things he wishes he'd done differently.
- gary b - 01-26-2013 02:07 PM
In the last 4-5 months, I've had a chance to talk to several preachers that do marital counseling.
ALL of them say that the number of "social sites" problems that they are seeing that are WAY UP! It used to be that money, sex (not getting enough) , and infidelity (physical affairs) were the "Big Three" in marital counseling. NOW, it is "Long Distance Infidelity" (cheating on-line), money, and sex, with "social sites" causing about 70% of the counseling issues.
I don't do ANY of those things. My wife does, but I have the passwords. WE (together) use one to keep track of our kids and relatives all over the USA. >I< think that if a wife or husband can't VOLUNTARILY let their spouse into the site (reading emails, comments, and so on) then the spouse has the RIGHT to demand that the membership be stopped.
- Trevor - 01-26-2013 02:07 PM
It is not just FB but the Internet in general. The Internet makes it much easier to find someone to cheat with if you are inclined to do something like that. Before the Internet the only opportunity guys had to cheat was with someone they worked with which opens up a huge can of worms if caught (like getting fired). Now they can meet someone totally anonomous and hook up.
Also, there are a lot of guys out there many of whom are married to women who have some degree of attraction to the same sex. Before the Internet most would never have acted on these desires because that would have involved going to a gay bar or hanging out in a cruisy park, or mens room and risking arrest (like Senator Larry Craig) to meet guys who are into this sort of thing. Now all they have to do is go online.
- TobiasLuciaStarr - 01-26-2013 02:07 PM
In my opinion, if the spouses have an issue with a website, the issue was already there to begin with.
People like to blame FB or Twitter for their marital strife, but those websites wouldn't be a problem at all if those people's problems didn't already exist.