As far as contacting adopted children.Do the same rules that apply to birth parents apply to siblings?

[Ann]

Hi, When you adopt a child, you do so knowing the child has another family besides the one you're becoming. When we love our children, we want them to grow up happy, secure and emotionally stable. We earn our adopted children's respect and love with honesty, acknowledging their history and accepting them for who they are. Depriving your daughter at a chance of knowing a sibling or birth mother can cause long-term harm to your relationship. We, as parents have to trust in our children at this age and allow them to decide what's best for them.

I decided to answer this question even though I have doubts on your sincerity (your profile says you are female, but some of your questions state "I am male"). If you are your enjoying yourself making up scenarios, you have my sympathy for such an empty life. If you are really going through this situation with your daughter, I hope you accept she has another family.