Ladies, how many of you are getting a feeling that your hubby is more interested in computer than you?

[Your Mamma]

The solution is rather simple...find things to do in the evening that you can both enjoy together. If you have nothing to offer him, he will simply shift to doing something else that he finds enjoyable.

The simple fact is that after you have been married for awhile, you have had the same conversations (repeatedly) and the only thing you have to offer in terms of meaningful conversation is "How did your day go?" You ask a guy that and the response will be "fine, nothing new happened at work really." You might be able to talk about how your day went for 30 minutes - 1 hr but lets be honest, guys don't really care about the minor details / drama, like how the cashier was inept at the Piggly Wiggly (some of us might be polite enough to listen, though our eyes are glazing over).

So try to avoid falling into coming home, briefling talking about your day, eating dinner and than staring at each other (where he promptly goes to play video games because he has no interest in a stupid reality TV series or a chick flick).

Instead, go work out together at a local gym. Go take Karate classes together, go outside and play frisbie or catch, go ride a bike together...go do SOMETHING that doesn't make a guy say "please kill me now, I'd rather be playing video games."

The point I'm making is to try to combine YOUR desire to "connect" with your husband with a man's desire to keep his mind (and often body) "engaged" in an activity that is enjoyable. It is how many of us guys operate. It may be necessary to coerce him into doing something if he is "addicted" to the internet (games, e-mail etc.) but most guys just need an outlet.