Just learned that my new husband has been emailing with old Girlfriend on facebook.?

[Annabella]

I always have a hard time deciphering what's going on with someone from just a few sentences. It's like what came first, the chicken or the egg? Would he be secretive if you were a really cool & secure person? Are you someone that trips out to the point that he doesn't clue you in on things to avoid drama? I mean you did "deactivate" his account. I wouldn't have done that & to me that says you just controlled his @ss like he's an 8 yr old. There is such a thing as ruling so much with an iron fist that nobody wants to tell you anything anymore. I understand that lying is total BS but sometimes you have to look inward as well & find out why he feels he has to hide things. My husband is still friends with his ex, I've met her, had her over for BBQ's, etc. He has no problem saying "oh I just got a text from ____ today" because I'm not going to trip on it & he knows that.