Why do teens post about drinking on facebook when their mother can read it?

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Teens have the tendency to do risky things to define their independence and identity. They are at the age where they are about to leave their highly dependent selves during childhood and enter adulthood. Doing these "risky" stuff is their way of saying, "Look world. See what I've done! I've survived this event. And this is who I am." It's like a modern form of rites of passage. But it's a common discourse for the mainstream to see them as immature as they did these "risky" stuff and the media tend to glorify the extreme ones.

In order to define their identity, they need the attention. They need people to notice them and acknowledge them. It doesn't have approving acknowledgement. They sometimes need someone someone to say,"Look, this whole gig is not you. Find something else that is you." Of course, it had to be someone from their peer groups. The problem is that if there's no one notice them, their attention-grabbing actitives are going to get worser and probably "riskier"

For parents, I suggest you just keep a close eye on your teens. Posting photos of them drinking it's just an indirect way of them saying, "I'm growing up. Give me some space." As long as they are around a good bunch of supporting people, it's alright. Just don't intervene too much. They'll do anything to diffrentiate themselves and their parents.