In the argument that homosexuality is/is not a choice, is there any way that both sides can be correct?

[Firelock]

Who you have feelings for, who you fall in love with isn't a choice.

What is a choice is whether you act on your feelings or not. There are people who are only attracted to members of their own sex who believe homosexuality to be wrong for moral or religious reasons, and therefore choose not to act on their feelings - they choose to live a life without intimacy, since the only intimacy they're interested in is, in their eyes, wrong.

It's terribly difficult to live a life that way, trying to shut off an entire aspect of yourself. You shouldn't ask it of anyone unless the alternative is destructive, either to themselves or others.

If you believe that living as a homosexual will harm someone, then you believe that someone with same sex attraction should be celibate and lonely - and you probably believe that guilt and shame for those same sex attractions should be constant companions to this person, to help them stop themselves from following their natural desires and causing that harm.

If you don't believe that living as a homosexual harms anyone, then the idea that someone should be ashamed or guilty or lonely because of it will sound cruel and ridiculous to you.

Both points of view are correct, given the assumptions behind them. My point of view is that there is no harm in being gay, and I'm saddened by the harm that's sent towards people for being gay.