How much privacy do guys really need in a relationship?

[Myth_Understood]

Sweetie ... you might think that this is a serious relationship, but he doesn't.

The only time that privacy doesn't exist is in a marriage. Until you're the Mrs, he doesn't owe you anything.

YOU are allowing him to hold all the cards. YOU are sitting there quietly while he pulls this double standard crap on you. YOU are letting this happen.

YES it's a bad sign ! The bad sign is that you sit still for this, instead of telling him to stick it. THAT is a bad sign. I'm not saying that he's right (because he really isn't). What I'm saying is that you are blind to the complete disparity in how you treat him, vs how he treats you. There is no balance here. What is so attractive about this guy that you let him turn you into a doormat? He's walking all over you.

I suggest that, when you're not on the phone, you lock it and change your password to unlock it. If he even breathes a word of complaint, hold out your hand and ask him for HIS phone. Based on how that goes, you'll know whether this guy is a keeper.

Right now, my guess is 'no.' He's controlling (wanting to see your stuff without showing you his), and manipulative (getting defensive and distracting you from the issue at hand), both of which are hallmarks of a guy who doesn't respect you.

I think you have a decision to make.

This is my view.