Online friend doesn't want to meet me?

[kat]

Well, I definitely wouldn't take it personally. Either she's wary of meeting someone in IRL who she's met online or she's just wary of social situations in general (not surprisingly, a lot of people who conduct most of their social life online are skittish about in-person socializing). Maybe she's been burned or let down by an online friendship before and doesn't want to screw it up by changing the context of your relationship. But if you're patient and understanding and don't accuse her of being weird, she might eventually come around. My best friend, who I met on Facebook Rounds of all places (playing backgammon, natch lol - http://apps.facebook.com/chatrounds/conv...bannerid=0 ) basically just flat-out told me she'd never want to meet up in person because she likes to keep her online and her IRL worlds separate, and basically I just have to accept that. It may change, but for now I just have to appreciate what we have.

It is a bit rotten in your case how she'll make plans and then cancel and give an excuse. But she probably just feels bad about not wanting to meet up -- which shows she's a good person and values your friendship. But I can understand that you might feel disappointed and that sucks.