HOW SHOULD I TELL A FRIEND OF MINE THAT SHE HAS TO BE OUT BY A CERTAIN TIME? WITHOUT BEING MEAN!!?

[Tomica]

I have a friend that came out her about two weeks ago from Pasadena, ca and she has no job but her family was getting kicked out so she asked if she could come out her with me to get a job and she will get her own place. i have a family me and my soon to be husband and my son. Now mind when she came out here that she did not have much money maybe 60 dollars and she has been wasting it her money on things. now we told her she will have to go apply for food stamps which about one week ago she got 280 in food for october and november put together but she said she only has 40 dollars left and that is suppose to feed her until december. she always want to get on the computer to put applications in but when i go to see what she is doing on my computer she is on myspace, face book, twitter and shit. She has been out maybe two time out of two weeks to look for a job. I DON'T WANT HER LIVING WITH ME FOR EVER. i know she has only been her for two weeks but i believe she should be out looking for a job everyday and be out by 8 am mon - friday and not home til 3 or 4. since eventually she will not have any bus fare anymore after a couple more days. She stays up all late with my mans cousin (which has a family of his own) but thats another story. but she is putting this man before her responsibilities of finding a job. What is a resonable time i should give her to be out? and how can i tell her without being rude, or mean. Also how do i tell her that she needs to be out looking for a job mon thur friday from 8 am to no earlier that 12pm? Help me please i know i wrote alot but i need help. i am a quiet person just keep to my self and really have a hard time telling someone what they need to do when living with me. same with i have to have my husband to tell his cousin that he has to go home every night at like 12:30 or she would have him all night and not get up in the morning. please help me i need help.