How do I confront my rapist?

[Daniel]

Hmm, well I think it's important to consider whether or not he sees what he did as a rape. Rape is a very serious accusation and is not to be tossed around lightly (I'm not saying you weren't raped, or that you are making false accusations, I'm just saying that he may have a different view on things).

For example, is it at all possible that you were not in fact raped but are instead reacting to having been intimate with a normally unwanted suitor while intoxicated?. Given that we don't know the circumstances and we certainly don't know either of you in person and that the police said that they couldn't get enough evidence. I find it highly unusual that a rapist would contact his victim via social networking and potentially worsen his legal situation through contact unless he felt that he did not in fact rape you or that even if he did, you could never prove it even with potentially incriminating messages.

Please also bear in mind that because he knows your first and last name, he may be able to find you if he wants to cause you physical harm again. Or simply become extremely appologetic, either way you don't want this guy in your life.


Bottom line: you can tell him what he's put you through. But bear in mind that he may simply not care (if he did in fact intentionally sexually traumatize you I doubt your feelings would particularly matter to him) or that you will evoke an angry/guilty response from him if he feels that he is being falsely accused.

The best thing to do might simply be just to try and move on. You should submit those messages to the police because they may strengthen your case.

I hope I could help you. Be strong