My partner does nothing all day. What can I say to her?

[david b]

Carl,

You aren't expecting too much from your partner. I think however that she may be overwhelmed by having two small children and is having a difficult time coping with the situation. That would explain why she spends so much time on the computer, etc. It's almost like a person that uses drugs or alcohol to try to escape their life situation.

I think that the best thing the two of you can do would be to go for some counseling once the busy time of the holidays has passed. You both need a professional to teach you the tools to cope with your relationship. She needs the most help obviously, but I'm sure your positive support will make a big difference in how long it takes for her to get on the right track.