Please help...My situation is weird...?

[Emma]

Here's an answer from a girl who's been the girl on the other end of your situation:

Sometimes, after something like this happens, the girl starts to like the guy. She didn't even know who he was when he asked her, but then she started thinking of him differently, and if I were you, I would start talking to her again. But don't go crazy and just blurt it out again. Take it slow. Also, don't only talk to her on social media. It's okay to message her on Facebook or text her (remember: girls like it when guys text them first) but start talking to her in person before you do that. Personally, I hate it when there are those guys that I like but they only text me, they don't talk to me in person. When you do talk to her, after a while and you try to become friends, you could try some subtle flirting. Here are some flirting tips:

1. Have an Opening Line
Find a reason to talk to the person. If you're in a class with them, come up with a question about an assignment. If they're standing in line behind you at a concert, ask about the band. Get creative, and be ready to respond to whatever they say.

2. Make Eye Contact
If you don't make eye contact, you'll look bored or uninterested, and that's not an impression you want to give. Too shy to look them right in the eyes? Here's a trick: look at the spot right between their eyes. It'll look like eye contact to them.

3. Come Up With a Compliment
Pick one thing you like about the way they look - like their hair, their smile or an article of clothing. Let them know in a friendly way how much you like it. It'll make them feel good and will open them up to you. (If you can't think of an opening line for tip #1, a compliment will do.)

4. Smile
You don't have to go all Bozo the Clown, but the idea is to look like you enjoy talking to them. So be sure to throw them a smile whenever it makes sense. If they shoot one back, you'll know that they like talking to you, too.

5. Flirt With Your Body
The body language you use when you flirt is just as important as what you say. Use good posture, point your body towards the person and try to find excuses to touch them. I usually touch a guy on the arm, so you could always try that with her!

6. Keep It Light
You'll get a way better response if you chat about fun, happy stuff (like your new puppy) than serious or sad stuff (like when your puppy got hit by a train). The point of flirting isn't to bare your soul or share your honest opinions about everything. It's to open the door to lots more conversations down the road.

7. Beware of Awkward Silences
Once the convo drags, it's probably gone for good. Fill an awkward silence by asking the other person a question. Can't think of one? Ask them about something they're wearing or something in your environment (like a painting on the wall, or the music that's playing).

Hope this helps!