Am I selfish or is this wrong?

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Fiancé wanted a break. He has a lot going on with his family and is very depressed. He keeps saying he wants to work it out, he just needs space, he says his heart is with me, he loves me, etc. this break has been going on for 3 months. I have not seen him since he said he wanted a break. He refuses to see me. He says he's lost and not himself. He does call every few days, I don't call him. I do text first, but he won't text unless I do and he takes 10-12 hrs to reply, but I can see he is online using social media but ignoring me. I'm hurt that we can't work through this together, but I'm giving him the space he wants. What really upsets me though is that he ignores me, he only communicates with me when he feels like it, but I can see him online chatting with other females. They are strangers though, no one he knows in person. It hurts me that he makes time for them but not me and he adds them but refuses to add me. He wants another month or two of space to deal with his issues and his family. While I know things are very bad for him right now and I do love him and want to wait, this really hurts me how he just talks when he feels like it and ignores me most of the time. I feel like I'm carrying so much weight on my shoulders. I'm confused and miss him, but I hate just being here at his convenience. I cry all the time, barely eat or sleep. He refuses to talk about us other than when he brings it up. He says he loves me on the phone, but when he texts he acts like I'm just a friend and no ily. Is it selfish of me to want to give him a choice? I just can't sit here like a puppy waiting when he has time for everyone else and may never come back. I know he isn't dating or sleeping with anyone, but it hurts that he makes time for strangers /women online (all friendly chat though). Should I give him time? I just can't keep going like this wondering why he ignores me. I don't expect attention 24/7 but his words and actions are the complete opposites.