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Pressure to be beautiful from friends?!?
03-20-2014, 03:52 PM
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Pressure to be beautiful from friends?!?
Lately I've been feeling awfully inadequate, especially in beauty.
I know that society puts a lot of pressure on girls to incorporate the beauty standard in the way the look, present themselves, and lead their lives, but its really taken a toll on my mental health.
I am quite slim, so body mass is not the issue. Its more of the psychological factor of all this.

First of all, my best friend in the entire world is an artist. She takes into account people facial features to an acute point, and she ALWAYS mentions that my eyes are really big and round. It ticks me off.

Once she compared my eyes to another girl, and she was like, "that girl, she has eyes of an actress, however your eyes are just really round. they're not that bad, its not like they're ugly, they just aren't gorgeous."
As if. I know that I'm not a supermodel, but she's just so brutally honest its annoying. I told her that I would like it if she stop overanalyzing my face.

She also told me that if I was insecure, I could "fix" my large eyes using makeup. She made me get a complex that my eyes were just too big which I had never felt before.
Whats confusing to me is that she is amazing in all other ways, a comforting presence, helps me with my problems, etc. cares about me...

It sounds silly that I wish she would think I'm pretty, but I really do. Not in the conceited way, in the way that I wish she could help me feel confident.
She rants and raves about how some girls are just so gorgeous, and it feels like its a tacit comparison with ME.

She once said about my looks, "yeah you, you're not that bad. not bad at all"
Is she calling me average? I don't see what her right is to judge me.

Not many people call me pretty either. Even on facebook. I get the occasional compliment, and I know such trivialities should be the least of my concerns, but I cant stop obsessing over it Sad

I just want to feel beautiful without letting other people define my self worth. Is she a true friend? Should I stick around her if she makes me feel this way or am I thinking too deeply into her words?

Thanks for caring about my silly question

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Pressure to be beautiful from friends?!? - Holden Caulfield - 03-20-2014 03:52 PM
[] - YuriKo - 03-20-2014, 03:59 PM
[] - Arielle - 03-20-2014, 04:15 PM
[] - shay - 03-20-2014, 04:17 PM
[] - Abril - 03-20-2014, 04:28 PM
[] - Jihane - 03-20-2014, 04:34 PM
[] - Uknown - 03-20-2014, 04:50 PM

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