Why would you want to be friends with an ex? Who has time for that nonsense?

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I just went through a divorce after being with my wife for 17 years and having 2 kids under 12 with her. She said she hoped we could be friends. She initiated it and had an emotional affair while we were married.

I think there are benefits to being friends with somebody that you have been with for a long time. You know the other person better than anybody else knows them. You can help guide them.

I find myself conflicted between trying to get her back to help restore my family and being disgusted with recent behaviors of her and the way she threw our family away. I did not want to be just friends with her and because she wants it, I want nothing to do with that idea.

She comes to me seeking emotional support when her new guy friend isn't around or its a problem she needs help with ( a relationship I know the full history of ) and he has no knowledge or context of. She isn't there for me when I need her, so I see this is a one way deal.

Its all hard.