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I don't know how to move on, I think I still like him. Can we be friends? How do I move on?
03-24-2014, 11:04 AM
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Okay I am talking out of personal experience here.
I KNOW YOU'RE HURTING. I know you refuse to accept that this is over. I know you still hope there could be some way it could work out between you.

BUT THE ONLY WAY, and I mean it, the ONLY way to face this situation head-on is to give it TIME and SPACE.
By distancing yourself, you'll slowly get over the hurt and disbelief. Your dignity will remain intact. You'll come to realize just why it's okay that things happened this way. You'll come to see how this all happened for the very best.
Give it three months MINIMUM. Don't talk to him, don't text him, don't investigate his facebooks profile or instagram profile or whatever. Literally have NO CONTACT with him WHATSOEVER.

If you skip this step, even just a friendship would be impossible because the "wound is still fresh", so to speak. He'll see you as clingy and he'll want to break free. The more you breathe down his neck (texting him, checking up on how he is, etc) will only make him run further away.
Plus, he's still grieving from The Evil Ex. Whatever reason they had for breaking up, it's still fresh in his mind and he's not over her. I'm not saying you were a rebound... but you kinda were. It's not because of how you are, what you did or what you look like... it's just that he saw an attractive female who he was into, and before he was ready, he was biting off more than he could chew.

The fact that he backed off and broke up means that he saw you as more than a fling. You were special to him and this SCARED HIM because he WASN'T READY for that. He needs time to get over whatever he has going on and to reflect on just why and how you were important to him.
That is also why you need to keep your distance during this process.
He can't have you in the way of his healing process, or he'll need more space.

I wish you all the best hon, you sound like a great gal and I'm sorry you're going through this heartbreak!
Chin up and remember to stay beautiful! Smile
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[] - Janet - 03-24-2014, 11:03 AM
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