how do i move on?

[Lauren]

Funnily enough I've just been broken up with, too! It wasn't until I started stalking that I started to think more and more about what if and what could have happened, and just generally wondering what he may be doing with his time. I know that he's close to other girls and he was ever since out relationship, which made me insecure as you are but I tried to defeat it - after all, we know how girls minds work, we are girls.

But listen, honestly - it's probably feeling like the toughest thing in the world. You start to think that you're getting better and then BOOM something hits you square in the face or you see him again or he pops up in your life - because he knows you're feeling better. My advice is to cut all ties with him - literally delete everything about him/anything social media/anything you can see that he's doing! It will only drive you crazy and that's never good!

Another thing - get rid of all photos and stop looking back. It's natural to run through all the memories you shared and how much you did together, what you felt about each other - why go back there! It's only going to upset you more and in order to accept that this is over you need to get rid of these things so that you can start to fade the feelings and hurt.

I promise - it does get easier!!! I'm still waiting for this to happen to me, hoping that I'll wake up and go a whole day without making myself over think about the situation. It's over - you deserve happiness and it will find you in time. Time heals a lot of things and plays a big part in healing hearts. Sooner or later, months, weeks down the line you'll start to feel a change in yourself. You'll find that you're not thinking of him so much - and when you do, it'll only be happy thoughts - no regrets or I wonders.

Last of all - try and stay hella busy!!!! Organize trips and fun days and even lazy days - but try and be with the people you love when you do so as much as possible. They should help you forget about things for a while and focus on the future. They'll make you laugh and should comfort you when you need it. I know that when I'm alone I tend to think 3869769x more. Seriously, just plan things. Make yourself have things to look forward to, stay away from happy love movies!!!!! Watch funny ones about how the ex gets revenge and funny movies - it'll make you laugh.

Be happy!! I know it's easier said than done but you'll find happiness when you least expect it, just finding yourself is the step you need to take first You didn't need him before, you don't need him now. Hope this helps! Good luck x