Is there a way to stop being so sensitive? I'm so sensitive and I hate it!?

[Kay]

When I was in my teens I hated the fact that I looked so young. I was still being asked for identification to prove I was 21 when I was 25. When I didn't get asked around my 26th birthday, I was just crushed. My nephew was asked for identification last year and put it on Facebook so we could all laugh. He's 36.

It's tough for a guy to be short. And people are probably telling you that you'll still grow until you're 18 or 19. I bet that doesn't help. Of course you're going to be sensitive about people pointing out your size and youthful face. Nobody likes to be told how they're different from most of the rest of the world.

It's also tough for a guy to be more sensitive that most other guys. While it's uncomfortable for you now. It can also pay off later. My favorite men have always been the sensitive ones. It means you're more aware of things. You're also more aware of your feelings. That's actually a good thing. I have counseled people who were unable to tell me what they were feeling.

So, how do you cope with this? It's all about how you talk to yourself. If you keep focusing on your disappointment about your height, you will feel embarrassment and sadness when someone points it out. If you keep berating God or your parents' genes for your height, you will get angry any time someone mentions it. You may even see some advantages to it someday. Look at the Hollywood actor Danny DeVito. He's short and not handsome, yet he has made a ton of money playing certain kinds of roles. You have to find role models that you want to look up to, instead of the media idols.

Look for people who have done good things with their lives and talent. If you focus on developing your talents and skills, and if you focus on helping others, no one will notice your height. They'll notice what a terrific person you are. If you focus your attention on getting to know people and looking for the best in them, they'll notice that you're friendly and that they feel good when you're around.

Our feelings actually follow our thoughts/beliefs/attitudes. If we change those or change our behavior, we'll feel better about life, ourselves, and everything. Best wishes for a new outlook.