Upset that my boyfriend watches..... PLEASE HELP?

[Ann]

Men like porn. but they usually watch it in a disconnect to the woman. meaning it's not the woman they are attracted to but their action. An example is that there are normally men in porn doing the sexual action too. Are they attracted to the men? Probably not, (unless they are gay of course). But taking an attraction to the porn stars and following them on facebook or twitter is another thing. I believe that it has gone too far then. I don't believe that him watching porn is a result of him not being attracted to you. My husband watches porn every now and then and it doesn't bother me because I am very comfortable in knowing how much he loves me. Are you comfortable in knowing that he loves you and is attracted to you? You don't have to answer that on the internet but it may be something you might want to ask yourself. Whatever your answer is you may want to casually talk to him about it. Maybe come up with some guidelines you both may be comfortable with. For instance I don't necessarily like him watching (on video) single girls, because that's like admiring the girl rather than the action.