Am I just paranoid? Or is this bullying?

[Aandeg-Maiingan]

Its not bullying, but it IS a crappy way to act. If this "14" year old thinks shes an expert far more than a 40-year veteran, that raises red flags in that she knows absolutely nothing about Wicca, because she doesn't want people questioning her (many wannabes do that because they feel better in a play stance than to be corrected with accurate information, which would then make them feel foolish for believing what they did).

I agree that you need new friends because this group doesn't reflect real friendship.

If you would like to reflect your OWN expertise (or just learn what Wicca REALLY is for your own reference), id suggest looking up this site and utilizing the suggested reading material (listed on the right hand side bar in the link).
http://wicca.cnbeyer.com/wicca101/index.shtml