Is it wrong for birth parents to track down kids they gave off for adoption on Facebook?

[amyhpete]

My biological family is full of addiction and abuse. No more obvious are the effects of this than in my three young cousins, born to my aunt who is several years younger than I am. They were taken away 8 years ago and placed together in an adoptive family who already had five adopted children.

Their biological mother and grandmother have always felt like victims and that they were put upon not getting to keep them, even as their bio-mother still follows around their beast of a father, who used to punish them by putting their heads in the toilet, and has been in prison several times for all the abuse an pain he has caused numerous people. Our bio-grandmother was so pleased with herself finding them on Facebook. After reuniting with several of us, one of the girls became overwhelmed and had this to say:

To all of my biological family. Im sorry but I don't want u contacting me anymore until I'm at least eighteen and when I'm of age I will decide if I even want to still. My explanation for this is I forgive u for all u have done but I can't forget how it has affected and hurt me so much. I may have been blood related but obviously god had other plans for me. Everything happens for a reason. Im sorry to tell u but I don't think of u as my true family. My mom and dad are Mike and Peggy M. And they will always be my true parents. They chose me. They took me in. They have never stopped loving me. They have never gave up on me. They gave me a home full of wonderful siblings and relatives. They are the best things that ever happened to me. And I would never think about replacing them. They gave me what none of you guys could. And I'm not who I used to be. I'm Annastacia Marie M. not Hannah anymore. I can't even think about ever wanting to go back to something less than I deserve. My family means so much to me. I couldn't ever ask for any other family in the world. We were meant to be together. It wasn't by accident either it was a choice god had made. He gave us a second chance in life to start over. I couldn't ask for anything more than I have. I hope u all understand.... I just can't live like that again. No one made me say this I chose to. Im hoping u get where I'm coming from. Anna M.

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She is 17 years old and the middle child who spoke for her sisters as well. I think this is often how an underage child feels when she is "discovered" by her birth family.