husband wont tell woman he had an affair with to go away?

[dr.pepper106]

Restricting his daughter would be controlling, not good. I think you need to chill and let this issue go as it seems they are a package deal. He married you accept that and go on with your life. If he strays you did not have him to begin with. She is part of their life and there is no way to un-ring that bell.

[bunnyONE]

Look, you don't say how old the daughter is and yeah, it matters. Secondly? You have EVERY RIGHT to expect him to cease and desist with this woman via BOTH cell phone/texting/Facebook. In fact? If HE doesn't? I'd say that's a REAL dealbreaker and clearly, he's got something to hide. I mean seriously: THE GUY HAD AN AFFAIR WITH HER, WTF???!!!

-And just HOW IS IT? Your "Mr. Not-so-Wonderful" EXPOSED his daughter to his trollup of a mistress/girlfriend, whatever???? Is his head situated up his as*??????????? WHAT PARENT IN THEIR RIGHT MIND WOULD DO THAT??????????????????

Sorry. "Working things out" with a guy like this equates to beating your "head against a wall" because he's STILL getting what he wants and how he wants it. Excuse me????? Either give him an ultimatum or legally separate. Something is VERY wrong with his thinking...I mean V E R Y !!! IF he so-called wants to "work things out". This sure doesn't sound like a man who does!!!

Grace

[bernie c]

SWEETHEART WHAT YOU SHOULD DO IS JUST LEAVE THE JERK, AND FIND YOURSELF SOMEONE WHO COULD REALLY LOVE FOR THE WOMAN YOU ARE. THAT WILL TEACH THE BOZO A LESSION

[real estate guy]

NO.

[Arch]

Well, if the daughter is an adult, there's not much you can do about that. If she's a child, then letting her connect with the woman with whom he was having an affair in the first place bordered on child abuse and should stop.

Besides that, it is NOT okay to let the woman stay in his life. As long as she is around, you will never be able to truly trust him again. And he will always have that emotional connection. He'll be cheating in his mind whether he cheats physically or not.

I think a condition of you staying with him should be termination of all contact with her, and with the daughter if she is a child.

[F]

No it's not right. IF he hasn't told her to go away, more than likely he's still seeing her. Kick him to the curb, and be done with him.