maybe my husband is cheating?

[takerfan79]

The other morning, I sat down at our desktop and clicked on Facebook because I wanted to send a note to a friend. Instead of the login screen, a newsfeed page came up. I assumed I had forgotten to log out last time and clicked on the message icon at the top. Then I realized it wasn't my page when I saw my husband's friends listed. I was going to log out when I saw a note from a woman I feel is a dirty tramp (my husband used to have lunch the place where she works. It is a place that his recently deceased father frequented. His best friend and his stepmother have both acted like she is after him. he stopped going there when they questioned him about this.) Curiosity struck me and I clicked on the message. In it she said that she was breaking all sexual ties to him and that she thought he cared nothing for her and was just using her for sex. I nearly fell out of my chair. It was written on new years eve, so at first I thought she was drunk and sent the note to the wrong guy. Then I saw it was time stamped for 2:35 pm. I don't think she was drunk at that time of day. I don't think he is cheating on me, but why would she write that note if he wasn't? I thought of going through his phone when he is sleeping, but I don't want to sneak around. I want to ask him about it, but I sort of invaded his privacy. Though he has looked at my Facebook messages when I have forgotten to logout. I thought of asking his best friend, but I don't want to get him involved and make things worse. I don't want to talk to my friends or family because it will make them suspicious of him.

[Jim N]

This information seems nearly impossible to ignore, or, to misconstrue. While you are struggling with the truth, your choice is perhaps simpler than you might think. Ignore and live your life with what appears to be a cheater, or seek the truth. You have little choice but to confront him.
Regardless of the outcome, it is always easier to live with the truth than live with the lie. Dark secrets destroy and ruin lives. Perhaps you have been given a gift and this is a fork in the road. At any rate, you should not carry this burden alone for long. Good Luck.

[Robin]

Yes he is cheating. Catch him in the act.

[cutiepie]

The only thing you can do is go to him and tell him excactly what you wrote on here and how it happened. It was not like you were looking for anything bad, but you found something that is a problem and he needs to be confronted about it. It could actually be nothing or it could be something. But you will not know until you tell him, and i would not tell anyone else or ask anyone else before going to him. Good luck!

[sirjester099]

Where your marriage is concerned there are no secrets. You probably stumbled upon something that he, up till now did well to hide from you. Infidelity is the greatest form of betrayal a spouse can inflict upon the other! So why do you care that he might think you were spying? Why feel guilty for doing your homework?
You have a huge warning siren going off now and the cat is out of the bag. You cant put it back in so why not push it where you need to?
Print the message off and confront him with it. It isn't an invasion of anyones privacy when their activities throw up red flags that threaten your marriage

[a Guy bein a Guy]

I don't suppose that it occurred to you to ask HIM.

[Kaitlyn]

Its quite obvious he was sleeping with her and then broke it off when others started to notice. Message her yourself. Why listen to any more of his lies? She is most likely the one that will be truthful at this point.

[David]

confront him unless you really don't care. You realize if you do confront him, it could be the end of your marriage. If you really don't care, then go with the status quo.