My girlfriend wants to become my Facebook friend, what to do?

[Sviþjóð]

I have a very serious policy about not becoming Facebook friends with my co-workers. I met my girlfriend about 4 months ago at a conference in Seattle. At the time, we worked at different companies. In the last two months, my company has bought hers thereby making us co-workers. Many of her friends are co-workers of mine, as she doesn't have the same policy. Theoretically, I could just tweak my privacy settings but Facebook has a habit of changing things or rolling out new features which open up or change your privacy settings without your consent or knowledge. I don't think I have anything to hide, but you never know when that odd Halloween photo will be taken too seriously by the HR guy or made public after Facebook changes something.

Would it be better to just delete my account and call it a day?

[Athena Aspeslagh]

If you're not very much into Facebook it would probably be easier to just delete it, it will avoid possibly being tagged in annoying photos, and your girlfriend will not get worried because you didn't add her.

[elizabeth]

just dont invite her dont delete it

[soccergurl34938]

This is Facebook we are talking about... I don't understand what the huge deal about hiding your profile information from your girlfriend is. Obviously you have something to hide from her if you aren't comfortable enough to add her as a friend.

[littlebitinlove]

I know you've said you have nothing to hide but the fact you're willing to delete your account and potentially just cut off a whole way of contacting and socialising with friends suggests you have something to hide in a big way.

You have a policy of not having co-workers as facebook friends but not about dating them which is also quite bizarre.

I'd say explain yourself to your girlfriend and just try and keep it seperate, but don't expect her to just drop it.

[anonymous]

NO, don't delete your account! If you enjoy using your facebook, you should keep it. Just explain to her that you would prefer to avoid any repercussions of publicizing your profile. If she's a keeper, she'll understand. BUT, if you're not really a facebook junkie, and you don't care whether you have it or not, just delete to avoid any confrontation. Good luck and a pat on the back for being one of the few self conscious people on the web

[?]

Just accept her she is your girlfriend facebook is not put to get you and if your HR guy is on Facebook don't be friends with him so that you won't be worried About anything like the photos and stuff.

[Ashley Reid]

Just add her. If anything bad does happen just explain it to her. Don't just ignore her for she may think your blowing her off and it may hurt your relationship. Take a chance and she wasn't ur co-worker when you started going out with her so u may as well add her she is your girlfriend.

[Mark H]

If you delete your account she will know something is up...its better to talk to her about it and explain that it has nothing to do with the fact you are trying to hide anything from her, just that you want to keep you presonal life private...I mean if she is friends with other Co-works some of your post will "bleed" though to them as well. Talk to her about it in a way that say "i have nothng to hide from you, just want to keep my home and work life professional. If she is rational, she will understand that...cheers and good luck!

[Terra Sage]

I think what you should do is explain all this to her, and if she understands, you'll have no problem. I think if you delete your whole account without explaining it she will take it personally, like you deleted the whole thing just because you didn't want to be friends with her.