How do I get a guy back?

[Callie]

My boyfriend who lives in another town broke up with me because I went to this dance with a guy friend of mines and the pics from it were posted on Facebook but it's not a big deal since we are only friends! But he made a big deal about it and broke up with me. And I didn't get it at all. I really love him and I thought he loved me. We even said that we will get married one day when I graduated from high school. Plus I feel that he's the only person who understands me and my family situation since he has experienced something similar but I don't want to get into that on here. But now he refuses to even talk to me and won't respond to my e-mails or texts. I went by his place and he wouldn't even open the door for me and it's been two weeks! And one of my old friends said they saw him with this other girl at his place! I'm devastated by that since I thought we were soulmates! But how do I get him back?

[Elle2246]

Yikes...well, he sounds like a controlling, jealous, insecure person. He got mad at something ridiculous and YOU tried to get HIM back - there is something wrong with this picture. You gave him the upper hand by acting like you actually did something wrong, which you didn't. To me, it seems like he might have been waiting for an excuse to break up with you because he did it suddenly for no good reason AND because he is with other girls already.

If you still think he is worth it, the only thing you can do is absolutely nothing. The only time I've gotten guys back is when I cut off all forms of communication (NO texting, emailing, & delete them from all social media, etc.). It drives them nuts when they think you don't care, and you shouldn't care because it is all his fault. Trust me, it works. Having fun with your friends (and other guys) helps too. Don't chase after him. Make him chase after YOU. You're in control of the situation now.

Also, what you were saying about having similar family situations - I know you might think he is your soulmate because of it, but you will (believe it or not) meet many guys in your life who have similar situations AND who do not break up with you for dumb reasons. There is better out there, and if this doesn't work out, it will probably be in your favor because I have seen 1...maybe 2 at most...relationships from high school last. My high school sweetheart and I said we would get married too, but then 3 years later, I realized what an idiot he was. Plus, if you are going to college, being single is SO MUCH BETTER. Trust me on that one. The ones in relationships don't have any fun.

So don't talk to him and think about the good AND the bad with him. Chances are, you will see the bad and decide that he wasn't worth it anyway.