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GO Flossie - Floyd · 03-17-2014, 11:27 PM

Good for you! You did the right thing. You have alot of courage and self respect. Sex won't keep you from feeling lonely. It just makes it worse. If you had slept with him you'd still be lonely, plus hurt, used and rejected. You trusted your instincts and you are better for it. Your gut will always tell the truth.

This guy is just trolling for girls to sleep with. He doesn't care about anyone but himself. Cut him loose. He lost his right to be your friend when he stood you up. If you're scared he will hurt you I would not get on his FB page and please warn other girls about him. Don't have any contact with him. Remember Girl Power. This is the kind of thug who spreads HIV all over town and leaves girls pregnant.

I only hope your bestfriend can be as strong as you are. It takes a lot of self esteem to see thru these players like you did. A good guy would never pressure you for sex. He would want to spend time with you and care for you and show you a good time.

The lonely feeling will go away if you keep busy with hobbies, learning new activities, making new friends, church events, exercise etc.

Cali · 03-17-2014, 11:42 PM

You definatly did the right thing! The same thing happened to me and I know it hurts but try to be thankful that you found out sooner rather than later.

Chloe5500 · 03-17-2014, 11:49 PM

You did the right thing! Do not be decieved by loneliness and guilt over such a selfish request. That is how you will get hurt, that is how you will face heartbreak that can cause psychological issues. This happened to my best friends who ended up losing weight, stoped eating, and cried for almost two weeks because of a guy. Her last ex, ended up making her cry for like 3 months twice over 3 breaks ups! And I was there throughout the whole entire relationship. Troublesome if you ask me, it practically made me get sick just for being worried over it. Its not worth the risk. Trust me when I tell you this. Premarital sex is no joke. He would of had sex and move on to the next girl he can manipulate into the same game. That'w what players do. I suggest that you block him on facebook, and stop being friends with him. Its time you move on and be to yourself for a while to recollect yourself. And if he's moving on to your best friend, you need to warn her privately what he did to you. Now if she doesn't heed your warnings and does so anyway. Stay out of her business and that relationship. Save sex for marriage and don't risk having it before then, because you will get hurt emotionally, sexually, spiritually, mentally and psychologically. It's not worth it. And when your in a very bad sexual relationship, your body shows it. My once had a warm glow when she was a virgin, and now its completely gone, and started geting wrinkles and everything. It was so terrible. I cried. Please wait, and don't regret doing whats right. God has your back, you just have to continue doing what's right for you to do. Staying a virgin till marriage. And don't let these idiotic boys tell you otherwise. They don't know NOTHING about real love only fake love like Lust! And girl, 2 months is like a one night stand. It doesn't last long.Its best you move on. Stay a virgin!

Best Regards

Adam · 03-17-2014, 11:54 PM

Sorry to hear that. And yet, there is a good half that is not sorry but rather glad that you got away from such a bad bf. Firstly, you did nothing wrong here. Second, he was only diggin' you just for getting sex and that's it, that's all he saw ya as, so there's always the fact that even if you did give it up to him, he'd have left you anyway after a certain period of time for another.

This is also a good method for testing whether or not the guy you're with is genuine and cares for you; basically say you're going to hold sex off until marriage, then if the guy holds till that long or leaves before you do, then you'll have your answer. The bad ones like you were with will end up cutting loose real easily.

Also I noticed you said that you felt like he would hurt you and that he wasn't nice... there has to be more to do this for the inclination to happen, so you won't mind if I think that he's gone about threatening you at some point right? These thoughts wouldn't just come with the whole denial of sex and being dumped thing, so there's gotta be more to it.

At any rate, you're better off without that guy. All you can do is learn from this experience and push on ahead, and note that if a guy is impatient for sex, you're just being used for him. That's pretty much hands down right there.