I'm shy - why do people dislike me and why would someone with 700 Facebook friends UNfriend me?

[babbbyyX]

dont read in to it, because people get removed from facbook friend lists accidentally,
add him again and write all over his wall
make it public and nasty

[OzNana]

Face book is not real. These are not real friends. At best they are acquaintances. As your other respondent said, maybe they just didn't recognise your name. You should not take any notice of this and stop hanging out on facebook.

Try to concentrate on having real friends. Having hundreds of people as facebook friends is not the same as having real friends. Most people in real life would have no more than 5-10 real friends, and an awful lot of people manage perfectly well with only 2-3 real friends.

Facebook is an artificially generated popularity contest. There are many drawbacks to being on face book. For example, you can never really erase or remove your information from there. There was recently a computer virus that allowed hackers to access your home computer and access banking and credit card details, it was also spread through facebook. People have had stalkers and all sorts of problems. Someone had their identity stolen, a false face book page was made without this young man's knowledge, that spoke about wanting to rape and commit crimes. A young man's life has been seriously damaged by this. Prospective employers and colleges check out to see if people have facebook pages to tell them if that is the sort of person they really want working for them. Understand that things like facebook can be bad as well as good. Look at you. You have been upset by something as silly as this.

[Beth]

ya maybe..its not your shyness, cause people can over look that if you tell them( sometime maybe not)..may be its you appearece i dont knw you so i can never tell but there are a lot of people in north america that complety judges a person on their look or clothes. maay be your a slob..srry no offence..casue if they thought u were nice or funny they they shouldnt hate u..soo that all i can think off...
ps:dont worry about what people think of you ..u cant change their oppinon of you if they already desided to hate you for thinks that you have no control over..aka you perssonality or looks(i dont mean the way you dress or the way you take care of you face..that can always change and as they change peopel might change their oppion depending on who they are..) .well other people arent all that most of them put a lot of effort to loook good so if its just you appearnce it can always be improved.

[Ellie]

Story of my life.
I have the same problem. I grew up a shy and quiet child and never really had that many good friends. I'm 23 now and still don't. People treat me differently. Sometimes they misjudge me as soon as they meet me (people are always so quick to judge based on appearance and first impressions, which we all know aren't always the best).
I try to get along and be friendly with everyone, but I still encounter people, mostly other women, who immediately start behaving catty and bi*chy toward me for absolutely no reason whatsoever (this happened just last night). I suspect that a lot of it has to do with jealousy and feelings of inadequacy on their part.

I was also acquaintances with a guy in real life; as soon as I met him he friended me on Facebook. We were acquaintances and hung out with mutual friends for a while and than one day he decided to defriend me. I asked why the next time I saw him and his excuse was that we "just don't talk that much." He is a very "popular" guy... at least in his mind. He's the type who goes out everywhere, hangs out with everyone, and is considered a big deal by some, but he's really just arrogant and also somewhat insecure. I friended him again but he declined, it was totally okay by me since he's not a great person anyway. (He also has hundreds of "friends" on Facebook.)

Some people are just that way sometimes. I've had a lot of people defriend me probably because we never talk; but I also have a few people as friends who are complete strangers to me yet they haven't defrended me and probably never will. Oh well... that's just how it is.
All I can tell you is to not let it get to you. It's not worth getting worked up over someone deleting your from their online friend list. It's just one person who probably doesn't value your friendship/acquaintanceship enough. Guess that's part of life.

[Md]

i think you want everyone to like you... maybe the teacher DEFRIENDED you by accident. chill... there has to be at least 1 hater in the world.. not everybody can like you... just because your shy doesn't mean that they will always like you maybe they dont like SHY people they like wild and outgoing people.. your teacher is probably saying hi to you cause c'mon he's a teacher he's suppose to do that

[blacknmild]

Honestly, there is no real answer to why he unfriended you. The next thing is that people dislike you, because they can. I am in High school (15y/o)and am not very "popular" if you know what I mean, and yes, some people don't like me, but honestly, I used to let it bother me, but I had and still have faith in God to bring me through trying times. My advice to you is that if you're a nice person and you haven't done anything wrong to anyone, then they should have no reason to dislike you, but if they do, just respect their choice and move on with your life. Don't suck up to them, and only be nice on a "Hello-Goodbye" basis. This sounds mean, but if they ignore you, just be nice (don't show that it bothers you) in the sense that you treat them equally as human beings. i understand that it hurts, when you are unfairly rejected for no reason at all, but in life that happens. Like I said, turn to God and He will bring the right people into your life. Try to gather some confidence within yourself so you can become much more self dependent. This way, you will have the inner strength to rely upon YOU for the inner confidence that you need. One way to overcome your shyness is to FORCE yourself to socialize. You don't have to be a social maniac, but just have small talk and be courteous. Find something that inspires you or builds up your self confidence, so you can feel proud of yourself and actually build up a sense of who you are as an individual. As for the nasty girls......at my school, there are a bunch of boys who don't like me for _____; basically, they don't have a good reason. What doesn't kill you will only make you stronger. Remember that when people talk mess about you, just look at their lives, and then it won't even matter. as for the man from the improv class, just let it go. It's up to you whether or not you ask him why he unfriended you, but I wouldn't, because that could send the message, that you WANT and DEPEND on him to make your day. If he's gone, then maybe it was for the better. Out of 700 people, I can't just see him actually deleting you. Also, be very careful about whom you call your friends. In this life, friends are truly rare. This doesn't mean that you have to be mean, but don't let your mental guard down, because you seem a little emotionally fragile right now. I hope this helps. if you have any questions, just message me. Don't hesitate. I don't have a facebook, but i am planning on getting one, because a lot of people from my school have it. Right now, I am on myspace, but yeah, like I said, just remember what I told you. If people talk about you now, there is a possibility tha they will talk about you until the day that you die. Life is not about waiting until the storm is over, but sometimes, you have to learn to dance in the rain.

I hope this helped.