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Elizabeth Andrews · 03-24-2014, 10:58 AM

Im 15 and my boyfriend and i have been dating for five months now. I don't have the best relationship with my mom and i get grounded a lot. So i always have my phone taken away so my bf gave me an old ipod i could use to text off of with an app. I got caught after having it for a month so thats how long im grounded now. I am on my kindle and have been using my email to talk to him. Lately it has been taking him days to respond and he used to be within 30 minutes. Also last weekend i was at my dads and snuck phone calls at 1 or 2 and he woul be out with our friends which happen to be girls and some girls i heard of but do not know. And every time i called, he ended up staying the night. Now it was at my friends house and i trust her but if the situation were put in reverse he would flip shit if i stayed at a guys house. And ive been watching his facebook and he is posting stuff like snapchat me or someone call or text me! And he is good looking so its no one but girls liking it so that leads me to think he is snapchatting girls when he hates when i snapchated guys.
He tells me he misses me and loves me and just sent a sweet email telling me all that and how he will never leave me and of course its been days and no response from my email yet. I also think you should know that im not the best at saying what i feel so he doesn't really know this is bothering me, but then again i dont have the chance to tell him.
With all that sajd.... Could i just be over reacting and there is nothing wrong or does this situation seem sketchy to you too?! I just feel like he is tired of dealing with no communication and not being with me and started looking or maybe already found something better. I just cant lose him...he is my everything and he was my first time and i just need everyones input and advice !

***and i dont need people telling me im too young for a relationship like this or im too young to be having sex with him or nothing. I want real advice that could help me!

Sorry its so long but thanks to those who read it all and responded with help for me!

Keenan · 03-24-2014, 11:03 AM

I would talk to him, and although it's hard, confront him and tell him you dont like him talking to other girls. Then try and ask him why he was talking to other girls, bc it may be because of a way you were acting. This wouldn't be your fault, but still try to understand his perspective, then talk it out with him. The most important things in a relationship are trust, openness, and possibly the most important is communication. Hope this helps. And i dont think you're overreacting. And altho I do see how its unfair that he would be extremely jealous and want you to let him talk to other girls, let me tell you that guys get jealous really easily and it means he cares about you. I do think its alittle unfair tho. Good luck

Nina · 03-24-2014, 11:11 AM

Well my opinion is this...First you should find it in you to let him know how you feel. Do you see him in school?
But in this day and age anything is possible he could be bored since he cant talk to you-but talking/snapchatting with other girls IS NOT THE WAY TO GO and as a young lady you should speak up because something can not be fixed unless you try to fix it. Yes 15 is young and to be honest you'll fall in love again and again. You'll know when you found the perfect guy for you at 15 I dont think this is the 1.

so speak up and take action sweetie, dont let him think he can juggle you and other girls. Keep your head up and stand your ground if its worth it.

Cristo · 03-24-2014, 11:19 AM

I don't know if this might help much but I think you did mention you had 5 months with him I think in the early months of a relationship can't really be trusted I mean you can't really now how he is and specially is he puts out comments like that I mean if he wouldn't want you to do that with other guys why can he I think just have a good conversation with him tell him how you really feel let him know its bothering you and it just doesn't seem right

Lesley · 03-24-2014, 11:20 AM

I know u don't want 2 end that relationship but, it sounds 2 me like he is PLAYING you!
And Honestly I think all your friends know this.
He's making you look STUPID!
I know that sounds mean,and I'm sorry.
You need to flip this GAME he's trying to play, and there r alot of ways to this.
From what I ve read u seem smart,so figure out what GAME he's playing,So U CAN PLAY IT BETTER!!!!

Miss Tea · 03-24-2014, 11:27 AM

As it turns out, ends up you're disobeying your parents and saying "screw you" to your family, all over some boy that wont even text you back! Here's a hint-- if he really loved you he'd make your family part of your relationship too and your parents would already know the guy and would be able to trust you and you'd be able to go out with him, dummy, but its like you're doing the OPPOSITE of that, and herein lies your problem.

This guy was obviously going for a pump and dump with you as the victim and guys like that are the reason your parents wish you would wait for better guys.